Is this guy online needy?

He hasn't tried to chat me up or anything like that, and sometimes we do have deep convos. Basically he isn't a creeper however, he does get a little needy I think.

So in the past I have got irritated with him because he would say "I need a girlfriend". Now be said it the first time and I told him he will find someone one day, he said it another day and I ignored it and spoke about something else. The third time I got irritated and left a comment that showed my frustration, he said he was joking. Which I responded to saying I know. Which I do, he is joking when he says this but come on. How many times do you feel the need to repeat something and what response are you expecting?

I stopped speaking to him for about 2 months and I felt bad about it so I messaged him hi. Now he is always the one to message first, and he does it a little too often for my liking but that's not big deal on its own. But now he answers all of my threads to have some sort of interaction with me.

I've never answered any of his threads, there's no reason as to why. I'm just not interested in answering the questions he asks, so he messaged me saying "How come you never answer my questions?" I thought it was a dumb question so I answered with "...I just answer what I want" he responds with "K". He also mentions how I never ask him how he is doing, or ask him anything in joking form. In the end I responded with "What do you want from me?" and he goes "Wow that sounded like go away" I told him that wasn't my intent but this is where he goes and tells me he's joking. And be responded with "Actually that's how it came across for real" I just responded with OK since I've already told him that wasn't my intent.


Anyway what do you think? is he needy?

You are clearly irritated by him and he seems to want something more. Stop talking to him, you will be doing him and yourself a favour.

He sounds inexperienced and a bit lonely.

You sound really harsh.

He sounds a bit immature, and you sound annoyed and like your not putting up with it. Not a good mix for a friendship.

You are clearly irritated by him and he seems to want something more. Stop talking to him, you will be doing him and yourself a favour.

You are clearly irritated by him and he seems to want something more. Stop talking to him, you will be doing him and yourself a favour.

He is a 25 year old mechanic who boasts about how smart he is. A lot of things he says come across a little rude, I've only spoken about the times I get annoyed since this is my side of the story.

I'm 23 BTW, since I revealed his age I might as well.mention mine.

l think the guy is a bit immature he was maybe hoping he could have a date l think he is needing some one to talk with l dont think he is any kind of harm to any one

You sound like you dont like him much. Id suggest you end the 'friendship' ( although it already seems to be a bit one sided at the moment ), since you are obviously unhappy around him.

Yeah just guess I don't. I never called us friends, and he hasn't either but we do chat online. Sometimes it is long discussions and I like it when we do get talking about some things but other times he does get a little irritating and messaging too.often. Like every other day.

You need to set boundaries. Tell him that you would only appreciate it if he could message you once a week, or something along those lines. Also tell him that you do not like when he replies to all of your posts.

I don't necessarily mind him responding to my public posts, its just that he never answered them until we stopped talking as much. So it was obvious to me that he wants my attention since we weren't talking as much in the DMs and he was messaging first everhtime.

I'll try to set boundaries and be a little more polite. It will be a little awkward though

Ah, okay.
Setting boundaries is never comfortable so to say, but it will be better for you and him. Much less awkward than you trying to ignore him or being snappy.