My brother has left the house in a state after a party...

Where is your brother now? If he's at home, tell him to clean up the mess. Just make sure your own room is clean, and then I don't think your parents will do anything too bad to you. If the mess is really bothering you, just tidy up the less-messy rooms.

My brother invited some people over for a party on Saturday that lasted till 3:30 am (at the very least).

I didn't want to get involved, so I stayed in my room, and went out for a walk.

I didn't get to sleep till around 3:30 am because he was playing music.

I went downstairs to get the vacuum and spend some time with the dog, and it's a mess still, and I mean a right dump.



Part of me actually wants to clean it because it's that bad, but another part believes it's totally up to him.

I don't want to be a grass and tell my parents about the state of the house.

yeah its definitely up to him to clean it up, idk maybe offer to help with it?
threaten to tell your parents if he doesnt start soon? just threaten him with something lol... not a knife though

Levae it and as backup start farming the dog.

My room is clean yeah, I can never work properly when it isn't, and I hate coming back to a dirty environment.

He's at work. I feel sorry for my mum, because she keeps the place pristine, even though she works long hours during the week.

When he comes back, tell him to clean up the mess. If he refuses, tell him that you will tell your parents, and hopefully that will make him clean it up. If he still doesn't you could perhaps just leave it as it is and tell your parents that he threw a party that got the whole house in a state? I know you don't want to be a grass, but he seems extremely irresponsible and childish.

My brother invited some people over for a party on Saturday that lasted till 3:30 am (at the very least).

I didn't want to get involved, so I stayed in my room, and went out for a walk.

I didn't get to sleep till around 3:30 am because he was playing music.

I went downstairs to get the vacuum and spend some time with the dog, and it's a mess still, and I mean a right dump.



Part of me actually wants to clean it because it's that bad, but another part believes it's totally up to him.

I don't want to be a grass and tell my parents about the state of the house.

I'm going to give him until tomorrow morning. If he hasn't finished, I'm going to have a word with him, the ****ing hypocrite.

He needs to deal with the mess he's caused, and not have someone else run along behind him and clean it all up.

Where are your parents?

They're on holiday abroad with the rest of the family. This is why I don't really want to tell them what's going on because they're having a break...

They need to know. For a start, it's disgusting you had a party at all. Not sure if you're aware but there are social distancing restrictions in place ..

Yeah, I feel sorry for my mum who does most of the cleaning up. She's gone on holiday now, so I don't want really want to ruin it for her by telling her that the house is a bombsite.

He's a ****ing *******.

The worst is that he didn't even ****ing think about anyone else in the neighbourhood who may have been having trouble sleeping with loud music at 3 am... let alone me. He doesn't give a flying ****.

When he comes back, tell him to clean up the mess. If he refuses, tell him that you will tell your parents, and hopefully that will make him clean it up. If he still doesn't you could perhaps just leave it as it is and tell your parents that he threw a party that got the whole house in a state? I know you don't want to be a grass, but he seems extremely irresponsible and childish.

It's brothers for you, I'm afraid. Nothing is more selfish or insensitive than a teenage boy. And I should know - I've been one

That's sweet of you not to want to tell your mum lest it ruins her holiday (and it probably would). How long are they away for? So long as there's no damage like scratched furniture or damaged carpets/walls, and it's just a case of thorough cleaning, then I'd just recommend that you just tell him in no uncertain terms that it's his mess, and he needs to deal with it before your mum gets back.

Again, as a previous teenage boy, I can tell you that what he's doing is just leaving it knowing that you'll get so worried about it, and hate the mess so much, that you'll just give up asking him and do it yourself if he holds out for long enough. Don't let him do that - he needs to learn that actions have consequences.