Double messaging to get her attention

Well she last replied at like 11pm on Friday and its now almost 2 days later. Like stated in my other message i sent her another one today at like 7pm. But i've got work tomorrow so if she doesn't reply by tomorrow then i guess i'll move on, which sucks

Thank you, i'll just be myself when messaging, hopefully that'll be good enough for her! Aye, i am, she messaged last night and i sent a reply this morning, but she hasn't replied, so i'll just wait till she hopefully does again

Well I would be very flattered if I thought a guy liked me ( who wouldn’t?) but there is only one way to find out, lol. Let’s face it there’s only limited amounts you can say about archery and axe throwing...

You are loosing her.

Get her on the phone, then arrange a meet-up

stop faffing around with idol chit chat.

if a girl is not willing to set up a meet after so much talking then she is not into you. Period.


Most girls these days are too anxious to pick up the phone, but realistically speaking .. taking a phone call is a smaller step then going on a date, and if you can't even get this girl to pick up a phone then realistically you're not going to get her to spend an hour getting ready, fight through pre date nerves and second thoughts, hop on a bus, and spend a few hours of her precious time with you

That's just not how it works, if i just randomly call her, she's 100% not going to pick up over the app. But like i said to OxfordMum, i'll skip the idol chit chat and say how i feel about talking to her, if she digs it that we can progress on, if not then i just move on, but calling someone through an app wont work, like i said before when we start properly talking. Yes, then calling would be viable.

what i meant was suggest if you can call her. and push to call her if necessary.

and yes you'll need to migrate from app to phone. however at this point if you ask for her number and she makes an excuse, again it's a major red flag and a sign she's not into you.

the jump from phone call to meetup, is smaller than the jump from internet chatting to meetup.
and like i said in my last msg, if you can't even get a girl to pick up the phone to you, how do you seriously expect her to turn up to a date for you?

honestly, you should watch some dating experiments.
After 2 or 3 messages a girl will give agree to a date meetup with a "hot" guy.

Look how long you've been messaging her.....
Ok you're probably not a "hot" guy, but a day or so is enough [if she's actually interested].

You're taking things too slowly and trying to "play it safe"
Well here's a good quote I heard the other day about that. "playing it safe, is the most unsafe thing you can do"

Flaking is rife with these apps. A few days ago I posted another link with stats on how women use Tinder. They right swipe on average 2.5% of men, and on average go on a date with around 2.5% of the men they've right swiped on. Start pushing for the date. These girls talk to like 20 people at a time, and have match rates ranging from 30 - 87%. You need to stop pussy footing around and nail down a meet.

So I very rarely get attention from girls, not because i'm bad looking or weird. Infact, not even being egotistical (because i am quite modest) but i would say that i am a good looking guy, i'd say im above average intelligence, i can easily create conversations, i have a wide range of interests and i lift weights 5x a week and run 3 times a week aswell as picking a warehouse job just to burn more calories over the summer until i go back to uni, so i like to stay in shape. Saying all this i am quite surprised that the type of girl im going to talk about doesn't match with me on the regular.

I feel the first paragraph alone explains it.

I feel your pain. Internet dating is brutal and very upsetting. I’ve given up on it myself recently.

With your masters and your regular gym visits ( plus your general niceness) you will be a real prize for someone. Just have a little patience.