is uni all it seems to be?

in movies you see people going off to university and it all seems really fun and like they gain loads of independence, but is that the reality? to me, uni seems really nice like getting your own apartment and meeting new people. so is it really as good as the movies portray?

Very few people get their own 'apartment' studio apartments cost an absolute bomb. Most people have a single room with a shared kitchen and sometimes an en suite depending on how much they want to pay.
Personally uni was meh, i was there to get my degree not much else. I'm not a party person type and much of the university society activities involve some kind of drinking or general loudness that i wasnt into. It depends what you want out of it, some people love it but for the average introvert i would say it's not all it's cracked up to be.
I doubt they show washing your underpants in your sink when you run out of money for the laundrette in the movies

my dad said he might get me an apartment but id much rather buy it myself haha. im quite introverted and partying isnt really my thing so that's why i was curious to see what uni was really like. ty for the reply though (:

in movies you see people going off to university and it all seems really fun and like they gain loads of independence, but is that the reality? to me, uni seems really nice like getting your own apartment and meeting new people. so is it really as good as the movies portray?

Would you dad get you a flat, though?

For sure it can be, in my opinion. But not much light is shed on the loneliness you sometimes feel, existential crises, and sometimes being overwhelmed by new responsibilities when newly independent. though I think the possible "bad" parts of it are good in the long run as they are part of the discovering yourself process that accelerates, for some, at the brink of adulthood.

my dad said he might get me an apartment but id much rather buy it myself haha. im quite introverted and partying isnt really my thing so that's why i was curious to see what uni was really like. ty for the reply though (:

Yes this is true, society treats loneliness as an elderly person's issue but it is sadly rife on campuses


Not to pry but buy it with what? Even the max loan wont cover studio apartments most of the time and if your parents earn a lot you wont be entitled to much from student finance, personally i feel like that would be a huge waste of money (even to rent) considering you are only at uni for 3 years usually. SAs are reportedly meant to be quite isolating as well since although sharing a house isnt the best fun all the time with an apartment you are completely on your own. If you are privileged enough to have that kind of funding save it for something wiser in the future.

personally, if i didn't need to have a degree for the career i want, i wouldn't go. it's not awful but it's definitely over hyped and like the other person said, you don't realize the impact on your mental health it can have. just by living in halls which cause me to be sleep deprived from all the noise really f*cked me over

This is how i feel as well, i was there for the course and the course only to be honest. Pretty much all jobs in the sector i want require at least a bachelors, university was a means to an end

Yes this is true, society treats loneliness as an elderly person's issue but it is sadly rife on campuses

The amount of times I've cried alone in my room without my flatmates having a clue

omg no thats so sad :/