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Original post by Anonymous
Gym I'm working on and I get a haircut roughly once a week. I'm like a 5/10 for an Asian, average but not downright ugly aha.

I stuck to them in later years; in first year, I talked to hundreds of people, went to parties, drank, socialised, etc but those friendships fell apart and none of the girls I knew found me attractive. Some of my friends met people through clubbing on campus but didn't join societies; this worked until they started going out together without me.

Tbh sorry to break it to you but maybe youre just not attractive? Look at lowering your standards maybe. You should definitely work out if you want a good chance at finding someone to make up for what you lack, and even though your personality is supposed to be more important, looks play a big part in attraction too.
Wow, straight men definitely have it rough. I'm so glad I'm a gay man - d*cks flying at me from all angles. :biggrin:
Original post by Anonymous
Tbh sorry to break it to you but maybe youre just not attractive? Look at lowering your standards maybe. You should definitely work out if you want a good chance at finding someone to make up for what you lack, and even though your personality is supposed to be more important, looks play a big part in attraction too.

Yeah maybe I'm not, especially considering my dating preferences are outside of my race most of the time. Standard wise they aren't super high; not after the popular hot girls and much prefer a plain, quieter girl with a good sense of humour.

Will try working out, hopefully it gives me a boost. I've had a bit of a tough year with corona, a friend dying and third year so will be looking to turn things around
Original post by JockstrapAttack
Wow, straight men definitely have it rough. I'm so glad I'm a gay man - d*cks flying at me from all angles. :biggrin:

Hahaha you guys really do have it on a plate at times :tongue:
Original post by Anonymous
Hahaha you guys really do have it on a plate at times :tongue:

It's amazing, honestly.
Original post by Anonymous
Gym I'm working on and I get a haircut roughly once a week. I'm like a 5/10 for an Asian, average but not downright ugly aha.

I stuck to them in later years; in first year, I talked to hundreds of people, went to parties, drank, socialised, etc but those friendships fell apart and none of the girls I knew found me attractive. Some of my friends met people through clubbing on campus but didn't join societies; this worked until they started going out together without me.

What type of girl are you looking for?

The other possible solution is a bit of drip and money lol.
Are you a virgin by the way?
Original post by blackugo
What type of girl are you looking for?

The other possible solution is a bit of drip and money lol.

Someone on the quieter side who likes a good time, but can have a laugh and is comfortable being at home sometimes too.

Hmmm I think money would work if I was like 30, so not ruling that out just yet haha
Original post by JockstrapAttack
Are you a virgin by the way?

Yep sure am. Haven't done anything else either, so really an everything virgin.
Original post by Anonymous
Yeah maybe I'm not, especially considering my dating preferences are outside of my race most of the time. Standard wise they aren't super high; not after the popular hot girls and much prefer a plain, quieter girl with a good sense of humour.

Will try working out, hopefully it gives me a boost. I've had a bit of a tough year with corona, a friend dying and third year so will be looking to turn things around

Wow that sucks ngl, seems like you just need to focus on yourself for a little while. Everything will fall in place in good time, as long as you keep working on yourself
Original post by Anonymous
Yep sure am. Haven't done anything else either, so really an everything virgin.

Jesus, that's rough. I'm sorry.
Original post by JockstrapAttack
Jesus, that's rough. I'm sorry.

It's all good. It really gets to me some days and hate comparing myself with others, but you just feel so immature
Are you going for White girls, Asian girls, Black girls? Do you have anything interesting going on in your life apart from the academics?
Original post by Anonymous
Yeah maybe I'm not, especially considering my dating preferences are outside of my race most of the time. Standard wise they aren't super high; not after the popular hot girls and much prefer a plain, quieter girl with a good sense of humour.

Will try working out, hopefully it gives me a boost. I've had a bit of a tough year with corona, a friend dying and third year so will be looking to turn things around

Also, why dont prefer to you date your own race? :s-smilie:
Just wait, you’ll find someone soon, maybe when you least expect it, but for now just have a **** or something you’ll be fine 👍🏽
Original post by Anonymous
Wow that sucks ngl, seems like you just need to focus on yourself for a little while. Everything will fall in place in good time, as long as you keep working on yourself

Yeah that might be the best thing to do atm. I really want to believe that, but you need to make things happen and be proactive, I guess just not apparently desperate.

Original post by blackugo
Are you going for White girls, Asian girls, Black girls? Do you have anything interesting going on in your life apart from the academics?

I'm open to Asian girls, but think I like white girls a little more. Yeah I like a good pub crawl, gigs, music and used to photograph professionally
Original post by Anonymous
Also, why dont prefer to you date your own race? :s-smilie:

Like if I found someone who I clicked with personality wise from my race, I would but hasn't been the case in the past. Just think I get along better with white girls, but I know dating on those preferences will be a tough one
Original post by Anonymous
Like if I found someone who I clicked with personality wise from my race, I would but hasn't been the case in the past. Just think I get along better with white girls, but I know dating on those preferences will be a tough one

Makes sense. Look, you actually seem like a decent guy, just very lonely. Its a tough one. Youve just got to wait it out. Right now is possibly one of the worst times to be dating anyway. Good luck!
Sex is overrated. Relationships are overrated.
Original post by Anonymous
Sex is overrated. Relationships are overrated.

Relationships may be overrated but sex most certainly is not.

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