Serious post! Male friend gave me a vibrator. I dont understand him

Its so complicated

Not really tbh...

So i met this separated married man 20 years my senior. I soon started to like him. Went on 2 dates and kissed. He told me that he doesnt wanna lead me on so he said we should never date again but offered friendship. We text only and i get really naughty sometimes showing him nudes. He said he likes me naked but not interested in female drama so he doesnt want a relationship. Last month, i told him im lonely need a man and want him. So he bought me a vibrator and said i should use it to feel better. However though he wants to remain just friends he gives hints that he wants a video of me using it. Im confused. After 1 year he wont have sex with me but likes nudes and wants videos and buys a vibe. I need someones input. Why would a man do this?

He claims he doesnt want sex because he wants to stay single. I have never heard of a man refusing sex with a woman into him.

Is it that he is with someone else and just bsing me? At first he told me he had never been married and never had a kid. Then i googled and google showed he has a kid with a woman using his last name.

I confronted him. And admitted he was married but separated. He said it was too painful to disclose.

Im just confused

He's probably still married, but pretends he is separated and just wants some naughty pics of you.

Dirty old man. I would get someone your own age. You don't want to be going to see him a nursing home when you get to middle age.

I agree about the lying part. But true our agegap is unforfunately wide. But he persistently says hesnot lying. I ask about his wife. He says everytime separated.

But why are you bothrring with a man who just messes around with you and lies?
You said: "He claims he doesnt want sex because he wants to stay single. I have never heard of a man refusing sex with a woman into him." That's because you believe the stereotypes; men will always want and accept sex if a woman offers it- not true.
So let's understand men shall we? Not every man wants penetrative sex!The guy you are talking about may have fetishes to do with watching you do things.
He is not ready to fully commit to another relationship, for whatever reason. But you are. Therefore, he is not the one. And he lies. So, time to move on.

I dont think i can move on. Im in it too deep. Hes my best friend😂😂😂 . Plus i care about him i dont wanna leave him alone. I made this post because i wanted to know what people thought. Wether he has feelings for me or not. I sometimes think he loves me after all this time...but thanks for the reply. I have deep feelings for him and so does he for me. But we can never be together because of the trauma of his old relationships and probably his job

Ok. But that's up to him. If he wants to fight for you by leaving his old relationships where they belong- in the past, and gradually find a new job- then yes you might have a chance?

Maybe he just be vibin' with you

I knew someone like that. He wanted me to send him pics but I didn’t. Later on I found out he had met a woman online and was just stringing me along.

To an outsider like me, this guy seems like too much hard work, at the time of your life when you should be enjoying the company of someone your age with much less baggage. He obviously agrees with me, otherwise he wouldn’t have sent you that rather questionable gift.

He doesnt even ask for pics. I send it sometimes just to mess with him. He seems to like it. I just feel like the fact that he gifted me a vib has some significance. Or maybe hes wants me to be happy and satisfy myself without needing him. Who knows. All i know is he has never tried to take advantage of me or trick me. He has always been honest and he seems to care. I just get confused. He likes me naked . Gifts me a vib. But wont want anything intimate. He tells me all the time hes just a friend