Now to REALLY complicate things. My brother in laws family. They have been married for 20 odd years. I've met his sisters and one of his brothers a few times. He has 6 brothers and sisters in total. His mother is elderly and has dementia. His siblings are, to put it mildly, not the nicest of people. Remember quite clearly at my sister and her husband's wedding. ( The second time they got married. They were married young and it didn't work out. Met up again by chance years later, and ended up getting married all over again. They've been together ever since). So, the second time they got married to each other. My sister wanted a "big do" this time. Dress, church, etc. They were married in a registry office first time around. They had a lovely day that was perfect. Until the reception. When one of her husband's sisters disclosed to a room full of people all sitting round, that the bride has major mental health problems, and is "mental". (Her words). My sister rushed off into the bathroom, in tears, in her wedding dress. She didn't want all her extended family, plus her husband's entire family knowing about her MH problems. But her sister in law decided it would be fun to announce it to everyone on her wedding day. That is the type of people we are talking about here. My sister has a problem with ornaments. She feels that they "stick out" and give her a headache if not placed exactly as she wants them. She doesn't mind having a few pieces around, as long as no-one touches them. People who know her know this. Including her in-laws. Her sister in law used to call round to visit her, and take her young son with her. As soon as the lad was through the door, he would go straight up to my sisters ornaments, pick them up and look at them, then put them back. This would give my sister a headache, but she felt she couldn't say anything as he was only a child. She spoke to his mother on her own a few times but it didn't stop. Come round to visit, and mess with her ornaments. One day my sister spoke to the lad when he was on his own. Asked him why does he always touch the ornaments whenever he comes to visit with his mum? His answer was that his mum had told the lad that my sister really likes it when people not only look at, but pick up and touch her ornaments, as it makes her happy that people are paying such an interest in them. She confronted the mother, who denied having coached the boy to pick up the ornaments. But my sister knew she was lying. This family have stolen literally thousands of pounds off their own mother. She was given goodness knows how much in compensation after her husband ( their father) was hit by a bus. She didn't trust banks, so kept thousands of pounds in cash in her bedroom. All the family knew where this money was. It started going down and down. She was losing her memory by this point, so didn't realise. Suddenly, this sister in law, with the son who touched the ornaments, bought herself a fish and chip business, in cash, out of the blue. She had been on benefits her whole adult life, so where did she get that kind of money from? No-one in her family seemed to question it. Or maybe they all knew, and said nothing as they had all been helping themselves too. My sister's in- laws really are the type of family you would see on the Jeremy Kyle show, and that's not a compliment. Always threatening to batter someone etc. Even their own relatives. These people are all in their fifties and sixties. You'd think they would know better at their age. My sister and her husband hate them all, and always have. Yet because of my sister's MH problems, and I suppose came across as being difficult and temperamental to deal with at times, the social worker asked me to ask my sister to give her (the social worker) her sister in laws phone number. That was about four weeks ago. The last thing my sister wanted was her husband's family involved in any way in the decision making process for her husband. But that's exactly what has happened. Which for my sister, is just another layer on to the horrendous time she is going through.