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Hi I’m keira I’m 14 and I live with a narcissistic mother my dad and nan don’t want me and I’m struggling with pretty much anything u can think of I would like to be put into a foster home because I am so scared of hurting the people I love or my self could someone tell me how I could do that
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(Original post by Keiralacey2005)
Hi I’m keira I’m 14 and I live with a narcissistic mother my dad and nan don’t want me and I’m struggling with pretty much anything u can think of I would like to be put into a foster home because I am so scared of hurting the people I love or my self could someone tell me how I could do that
hey how much is the narcissism affecting you that you wanna move out at age 14? is it that bad? xx (not saying that it isn't, just give some more info plss)
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Defo seek some eternal help to help with the first issue to help your self esteem- you'll just have to learn to live with your mother and just avoid confrontation when possible
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hey how much is the narcissism affecting you that you wanna move out at age 14? is it that bad? xx (not saying that it isn't, just give some more info plss)
It can be very hard for people who are victims of narcissistic abuse to accurately decibel or explain their feelings. But narcissism can affect people very badly, to the point of self harming and wanting to end their own lives. OP shouldn’t have to give you any details they don’t want to, the fact that they’re asking how to go in for foster care is evident enough that it’s affecting badly.
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Call Childline.
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It can be very hard for people who are victims of narcissistic abuse to accurately decibel or explain their feelings. But narcissism can affect people very badly, to the point of self harming and wanting to end their own lives. OP shouldn’t have to give you any details they don’t want to, the fact that they’re asking how to go in for foster care is evident enough that it’s affecting badly.
ok sorry i wasnt aware of this
thanks for letting me know

OP u don't hv to give info if u don't want to..dont feel pressured
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Defo seek some eternal help to help with the first issue to help your self esteem- you'll just have to learn to live with your mother and just avoid confrontation when possible
Why should they have to learn to live with emotional abuse that’s affecting them so badly? If it were physical abuse you wouldn’t tell them to learn to live with it and just seek internal help to deal with the issue? They need support. They need to get out of that environment as people with narcissism don’t accept help and don’t change. Why should OP have to go through this?
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ok sorry i wasnt aware of this
thanks for letting me know

OP u don't hv to give info if u don't want to..dont feel pressured
It’s no problem I don’t mean to come as rude or attacking you or anything
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Why should they have to learn to live with emotional abuse that’s affecting them so badly? If it were physical abuse you wouldn’t tell them to learn to live with it and just seek internal help to deal with the issue? They need support. They need to get out of that environment as people with narcissism don’t accept help and don’t change. Why should OP have to go through this?
i've been through a similar situation and did the whole running away from home thing. Ended up coming home four days later, hungry, cold and ashamed. Instead of being immature I actually talked with them after the whole drama and we learned to respect each other's boundaries/our flaws - running away isn't smart dude. Seek help and learn to grow from it
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Hi I’m keira I’m 14 and I live with a narcissistic mother my dad and nan don’t want me and I’m struggling with pretty much anything u can think of I would like to be put into a foster home because I am so scared of hurting the people I love or my self could someone tell me how I could do that
You could call social services if the situation is really that bad? Or tell a teacher and they will be obliged to contact social services if your home life is a concern.
Just be aware that once you do this you can't undo it again and may not have much control about what happens.
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But I have a social worker
So should I talk to them
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But I have a social worker
So should I talk to them
Yes, definitely.
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i've been through a similar situation and did the whole running away from home thing. Ended up coming home four days later, hungry, cold and ashamed. Instead of being immature I actually talked with them and we learned to respect each other's boundaries/our flaws - running away isn't smart dude. Seek help and learn to grow from it
You’ve been through a similar situation but a true narcissistic parent doesn’t recognise boundaries. They see their children as property and treat them like objects. They believe they have all rights to their children because they view them as an extension of themselves. They have no respect for boundaries and cannot be reasoned with. Any attempt to reason with them or ask them to respect your boundaries results in what’s called narcissistic rage. OP shouldn’t run away from home but that’s not what they’re asking. They’re thinking it through, they’re asking how to go into foster care and seek help from social services, not run away from without any support or without a plan. But I am sorry you had to experience what you did and I hope you’re doing ok now
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It’s no problem I don’t mean to come as rude or attacking you or anything
yeah no worries
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But I have a social worker
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But I have a social worker
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Definitely talk to them
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Hi I’m keira I’m 14 and I live with a narcissistic mother my dad and nan don’t want me and I’m struggling with pretty much anything u can think of I would like to be put into a foster home because I am so scared of hurting the people I love or my self could someone tell me how I could do that
You could ring the childline number and explain your situation to them. They’ll most likely get you in touch with some social worker that can look at options for you including foster care if that’s really what you think is best for you.
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hi you can speak to them tomorrow morning, anonymously https://www.childline.org.uk/get-sup...unsellor-chat/
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You’ve been through a similar situation but a true narcissistic parent doesn’t recognise boundaries. They see their children as property and treat them like objects. They believe they have all rights to their children because they view them as an extension of themselves. They have no respect for boundaries and cannot be reasoned with. Any attempt to reason with them or ask them to respect your boundaries results in what’s called narcissistic rage. OP shouldn’t run away from home hut that’s not what they’re asking. They’re thinking it through, they’re asking how to go into foster care and seek help from social services, not run away from without any support or without a plan. But I am sorry you had to experience what you did and I hope you’re doing ok now
Oh that's fair enough, didn't realise how bad it was to have a narcissistic parent I thought it was more to do with being stubborn/self absorbed wasn't informed on it well enough. If they have another parent they should defo discus the situation with them before resorting to social services since life in care can be really rough especially for a teen. ( Also Thanks for your sympathy, the whole thing defo helped me mature into an adult)
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