Am i in the wrong?

When my future mother in law phones, I feel so upset and angry because I have no interest in my fiance.
And she always talks about the wedding etc.
I feel hurt becauze I feel bad because.im not attracted to her son.

Once u get married u will be attracted to him. It will just take time.

You really need to speak to your fiance about this :/ it won't be fair on both yourself and him if this marriage were to take place. Is this an arranged marriage? and, I don't mean to offend you when I ask this, but do you have a say in this? or is this situation against your control?


^^^ I'm sorry but that's the worst advice

I made the assumption that the marriage is unavoidable and therefore encouraged her to see the positive side.

Still not a logical thing to say.

Sometimes a situation can be completely out of your control. If so, you can only take the positives and keep your head high.

You said once she gets married she will be attracted to him, based on your assumption that she was getting into an arranged marriage.

Arranged marriage or not, it is not logical to say you will be attracted to someone you do not like if you create a relationship.

Once u get married u will be attracted to him. It will just take time.

Actually, it is often (not always) the case with arrange marriages where over time the relationship gets better and they start caring for each other deeply. It is human nature.

I suppose it isnt common in western culture so most people here wouldnt understand.

What about if i am gay(i hate myself)
And have never been attracted to men?

You said you will be attracted to him, will be.

That's not the case.

I knew my to be mother in law before all this, but I just don't like her talking about wedding plans. She is a lovely lady and it really hurts me because I won't be able to keep her son happyshe's always said to me how im a nice person and I really don't want her or anyone thinking that I'm selfish and a bad person.
I'm not.
There are things I'm having to do because i cannot see my parents hurt (if i tell them.im gay, which I've tried to but noone understands they still think my feelings will change once I'm married).
Ever since the engagement- I pretend I'm happy.

I said that as a form of encouragement.

If your friend has a exam, you tell them they "will do well and pass their exam". Not "oh maybe u will maybe u wont".

I knew my to be mother in law before all this, but I just don't like her talking about wedding plans. She is a lovely lady and it really hurts me because I won't be able to keep her son happyshe's always said to me how im a nice person and I really don't want her or anyone thinking that I'm selfish and a bad person.
I'm not.
There are things I'm having to do because i cannot see my parents hurt (if i tell them.im gay, which I've tried to but noone understands they still think my feelings will change once I'm married).
Ever since the engagement- I pretend I'm happy.

That's your fault then. You're letting all this happen to you, while you act like a sheep and follow everyone. Either say it more firmly/do something, or live your life in a miserable state forever. Your choice.

It's a very difficult situation. There may not be a solution here. I would suggest simply not giving up hope, u can still have an excellent future and a happy life. One thing I would recommend is talking to ur fiance about it (whenever u are able to).