I know a lot of people lie about these situations but please believe me I am telling the truth.
I was sat in the garden having a casual smoke with a coffee with a fellow tenant. I have lived in this house with him for almost a month now and haven’t developed a strong relationship but I always tried to offer him bits and bobs or some food/ingredients just or help him out with housework as a good gesture to try and make living with this new guy more fun and friendly. For pretty much the whole time I have lived has not really felt like he wanted the same friendly household experience but I just treat anything he said as something to forget about as he probably has has a bad day or something to make him defensive and angry all the time. In my old house I had some great friends but it eventually developed into some silly divisions in the house over petty household drama and I wanted to make sure that did not happen in my new house so I just ignored anything insulting or offensive he would say and continued to be friendly to the guy.
Today we was in the garden smoking together and he asked about my medical history (quite long list of stuff) and it came to the point where I told him I have minor heart problems because of hypos brought on from my diabetes which has caused some brain damage me and my doctors think. He then called me a “liar” multiple times which I just responded with calling him ignorant which made him through his coffee at me. I responded with “*******” whilst I calmly sat in my chair. He then walked off inside the house throwing the my lighter at me that I gave to him when he asked for it. He then about 30 seconds later he came back in to the garden getting close to me saying if I dare call him anything again he will “break me”and it started daring me to do it getting closer and closer to me. I remained calm in my chair but lost it only a little by calling him an ******* only once since he was daring me. I then quickly realised that it was dumb of me to say that it then just start saying I was “sorry if anything has bad happened today to make you pissed off” and that was that. It just continued with this guy threatening to beat me. I eventually got bored of it and went inside.
Im not scared of this guy but it really hurts my feelings when I have tried to develop a friendly relationship with him and he acts like this. I have really struggled with my diabetes throughout my life and it has made me clinically depressed but I just know if I want be happy I need to treat other people with respect. This guy has been calling me something like “stupid”or “braindead” pretty much every day since I moved in and I have only ever been kind. I even lent the guy money once but I have never gotten any warm gestures back.
How do I respond to this? Im really not comfortable living with someone who threatens to beat me and treat me like im nothing every day.