I’ve been seeing a guy for two months but we are taking it slow as I’m still unsure of whether I want to be with him. I haven’t met him that many times because of covid, but he’s so into and he’s very very caring and loving which is what I like about him, he replies fast and always wants to talk to me, wants to pay for everything, says really nice things to me, never is rude or argues with me.
The problem is he makes me cringe, he constantly sends me videos of him topless mid convo which seems immature and odd to me, these cringe snaps will be of him biting his lip and winking and it really makes me cringe and puts me off I think it’s very cringe. I don’t find him physically “hot” , and the amount of videos and snaps he sends me of these things annoys me. He also made a comment when he was turned on which put me off, he said I was “gagging” for it in terms of wanting him in bed when we haven’t even had sex yet or anything. I may be harsh but I feel like I’m always busy and he always has time for me and it bothers me, it seems he doesn’t have a lot going on in his life he says he’s been looking for jobs and texts me when he thinks he has a new work placement and constantly posts on his story about how he’s getting job interviews and how he’ll have a car in a few months and stuff but in reality not a lot seems to be happening — he never even finished school. Those kind of posts make me cringe and I’m not sure why, maybe because (as hard as it sounds) my perspective of him is that he’s a loser but I feel weirdly attached to him. This might be a harsh judgement because I’m 20 and at uni whereas he’s just about to turn 18. We don’t have a lot in common and sometimes he doesn’t know what I’m talking about and I can’t seem to have a normal conversation with him about any intellectual topic except where we’ll go on our next date, what we’ll do, how he feels about me and stories about his day and my day.
I’m really conflicted because I really love how he treats me and i think he’s a great guy who truly cares about me, he is not an ******* in the slightest and would treat me so well and eventually love me - he’s a family kind of guy and comes from a good family. But I’m struggling with the things that put me off about him, should I give him a chance or are these things too hard to look past? Am I meant to be crazy about this guy? Are we not compatible ? Opinions on how he is?