Hi, I want to ask if people have managed to continue the uni style social life beyond graduation. The reason I am asking is to put things straight due to circumstances out of my control I have been robbed of chances to live the uni life I have dreamed of and forced me to be stuck in my own bubble and COVID is threatening to take away my final chance at uni, and I want to know how I can do the sort of things I always wanted to do post uni if I am unable to this year.
I am going to go into a more detailed description of what I just described just to see if anyone else has been similarly unlucky when it comes to this thing and how they dealt with it/made up for it. If your not interested and only interested into the main reason i am posting this, which is finding out what exists in this sense post uni, then scroll down. Way before arriving at uni, I was eagerly anticipating going to uni, and I spent a lot of time dreaming of being part of a massive circle of friends, going to parties regularly, and was convinced it was going to be the best 3 years of my life, especially as my uni has a really good student union. However things haven't worked out.
In the first year I had a really good bunch of flatmates who I got along with. However most the times they went out as a group were to the student night clubs. Personal experiences I cannot describe here had disillusioned me about what a club night where people got drunk was like, and I wasn't keen on it at the time, and this limited the amount of times I saw them, which was a real shame as I did get along with them...
In the second year I stayed in student halls a second time and had a new bunch of flatmates. For like 2 months it was everything I wanted from uni life. I got along with my flatmates, we were all part of a large circle of friends, there was lots of activity at the flat each week including parties, and I realised I liked clubbing and was starting to get into it (had literally just been to a club for the first time) and then due to a spate of noise complaints from one of the quieter members of the flat, noise restrictions were imposed on our flat, which meant no one went to the kitchen anymore unless they had to and they all had to go to the flat next door to do what they wanted to do. Due to social issues I have that made it impossible to work out when anything was happening (they decided in person rather than online) and it was impossible to continue hanging out with them.
Because of my above experiences I have a lot to make up for this year and want to spend this year socialising, partying and doing everything I have missed out on (other than those 2 months) however obviously with COVID restrictions none of that is possible and the looming threat of it potentially affecting my entire final year, and the possibility of never getting the uni life I've dreamed of, and completely missing out on the uni experiences everyone else has been able to get (pretty much everyone else i know who wanted to do this sort of thing was able to) is terrifying me, and reading news reports such as the 6 person rule possibly being here till March is making me feel very uneasy. Right now I don't know what exists after uni so it does feel like the end of the world if this never happens for me.
So I want to ask people who have left uni but not wanted to leave the uni social life, what is there that is resemblent of a uni student union or at least that enables you to continue meeting people your age once you've left uni? As I said before, for ages I have wanted to be part of an institution where I have a large circle of friends, we are constantly meeting up and going to parties/gatherings/clubs regularly, and there are lots of societies that I can be a part of. I also have been desperate to go to my uni's own club, which appeals to me more as i want the experience of going to a club where everyone there goes to your institution, rather than where everyone there bar who you go with is complete strangers. The only way I can feel at ease with these news reports about potential COVID restrictions being there for a long time if I have the thought that I will have an experience just as good as what I could've had even if it can't be at uni. And also if anyone has been similarly unlucky as me when it comes to social life at uni, then please reply and talk about how you dealt with it...
To finish this off, I want to ask how are people getting to know new groups of people in this COVID environment? Due to what I described above I entered year 3 from close to square one. Thankfully I get along with my flatmates...