Left home, no support

I left home at 17 a few months ago bcs my parents were too strict, I had to follow their beliefs and wasn’t allowed out and had to dress in a way that was approved of. I mended things with them eventually and today spoke to one of the staff at school who was not nice about the situation at all. My mum told me that school said when I left that I was making a big mistake and I feel really hurt that ppl have felt it’s okay for them to say that when they’ve had no idea what I’ve been through

I'm really sorry that that staff member said that, it definitely wasn't okay for them to do so. Are you able to speak to the headteacher at your school about it?

The staff member who said it is very senior in the administration herself, I don’t think I am. My school only cares about grades and attendance to care their reputation up. But I feel so broken. She basically accused me of lying

Do you have anyone you can stay with? A friend or another relative?

I think you should make a complaint because that really isn't okay for her to do.

so what is the current situation with your parents. Have they compromised with you or are they still really strict

They don’t have a choice, they’ve compromised but they still try forcing their views down my throat. Especially my mum, she has an issue with me every 2 days but I’m dealing with that and I was things to be okay with my family. I just feel like I’m being blamed for everything that went wrong bcs ‘parents know what’s best for you’

Are they like religious or something

I’m assuming you are south Asian?

Do you even dress in a really revealing way or are they ott. Because im Pakistani and my sisters and the girls in my area dress in a western way just as long as they don't show cleavage or dress like sluts.

I left home at 17 a few months ago bcs my parents were too strict, I had to follow their beliefs and wasn’t allowed out and had to dress in a way that was approved of. I mended things with them eventually and today spoke to one of the staff at school who was not nice about the situation at all. My mum told me that school said when I left that I was making a big mistake and I feel really hurt that ppl have felt it’s okay for them to say that when they’ve had no idea what I’ve been through

You did 100% the right thing.

If I were 17 years old again I'd move out from the parental home, even if life there were a bed of roses. Because I value my freedom and independence very highly. And being totally self-reliant is easy enough in the modern world. It's not like anyone needs to go out hunting or farming in order to eat any more.

The staff member at your school is quite entitled to have their 100% incorrect opinion.
Their narrow minded opinion makes no real difference to you.

You living as independent adult now will give you a good advantage when you go off to uni. You will be used to looking after yourself whilst also keeping up with your studies. The majority of 18 year old students will be crossing this hurdle for the first time.

Thankyou, you have no idea how much this means to me rn. Everyone from my school to my social worker said I didn’t do the right thing bcs my parents only want the best of me with their rules but yes; I will always remember how free I felt when I held my bf’s hand in an Asda aisle the first night I left

Just goes to show how brainwashed / narrow minded / "let's be a goody goody" / socially conditioned many of the people working in secondary education are.

The people at your school and local social services have no idea.

No idea how much better off you are now you've moved out from your parental home.

The people that tend to be the most successful in adult life are the ones that don't follow the herd and are independent instead. Independent thinkers and independent doers.