Is it rude to take a guy out on a date and block him after

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So I went on a date yesterday, he took me to a restaurant in the city which was about £52 which isn’t much. Plus he received a parking ticket around £60 or more. So when I got home, he started telling me he’s “horny” etc and then I just told him that he hadn’t lost much money on me anyway, he came in a cheap car, and wasn’t dressed well. He then said that he had respected and taken me out. But I didn’t like his sexual comments so ended up blocking him. He was going to type something, but I blocked him early. Would you say this is normal to do? And I didn’t come across as rude?
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Who cares if it's rude or not? He made you feel uncomfortable and expected sex from you after doing the bare minimum to take you out. Tho now I'm curious to see what he would've said to fix that.
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if you don’t like him no, don’t feel obliged to carry on talking too him.
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He sounds like he was pushing it. You have no obligation to put up with things that make you feel uncomfortable, it was probably the right thing to do.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
So I went on a date yesterday, he took me to a restaurant in the city which was about £52 which isn’t much. Plus he received a parking ticket around £60 or more. So when I got home, he started telling me he’s “horny” etc and then I just told him that he hadn’t lost much money on me anyway, he came in a cheap car, and wasn’t dressed well. He then said that he had respected and taken me out. But I didn’t like his sexual comments so ended up blocking him. He was going to type something, but I blocked him early. Would you say this is normal to do? And I didn’t come across as rude?
That's actually extremely rude to block someone straight away perhaps you can clear the air with him and be brutally honest?
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Crass comment, also if it was clear you hadn’t hit it off, you did the right thing.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
So I went on a date yesterday, he took me to a restaurant in the city which was about £52 which isn’t much. Plus he received a parking ticket around £60 or more. So when I got home, he started telling me he’s “horny” etc and then I just told him that he hadn’t lost much money on me anyway, he came in a cheap car, and wasn’t dressed well. He then said that he had respected and taken me out. But I didn’t like his sexual comments so ended up blocking him. He was going to type something, but I blocked him early. Would you say this is normal to do? And I didn’t come across as rude?
You didn't like him and you blocked him. I am sure it will happen to you at some point, so no worries!
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You definitely did the right thing. What a creep!
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Who cares if it's rude or not? He made you feel uncomfortable and expected sex from you after doing the bare minimum to take you out. Tho now I'm curious to see what he would've said to fix that.
Are you seriously suggesting that if the guy had put more effect into the date, then he can, in your words, 'expected sex'? Surely whether a guy can legitimately expect sex after a date is not the amount of effect he had put in, but whether the desire for sexual activities are mutual?
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Don't think blocking anyone is the right thing to do. It always seems more sensible to just tell them straight up?
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Are you seriously suggesting that if the guy had put more effect into the date, then he can, in your words, 'expected sex'? Surely whether a guy can legitimately expect sex after a date is not the amount of effect he had put in, but whether the desire for sexual activities are mutual?
No, every date should be followed by rampant sex! Its only fair to both people!
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If it makes you feel better, the £60 parking fine is halved to £30 if paid within 10-14 days.
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That's actually extremely rude to block someone straight away perhaps you can clear the air with him and be brutally honest?
i agree
poor guy spent over a hundred pounds that day lol
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i agree
poor guy spent over a hundred pounds that day lol
No lol. The parking ticket is halved if paid within 14 days. Plus you can also appeal
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(Original post by Anonymous)
So I went on a date yesterday, he took me to a restaurant in the city which was about £52 which isn’t much. Plus he received a parking ticket around £60 or more. So when I got home, he started telling me he’s “horny” etc and then I just told him that he hadn’t lost much money on me anyway, he came in a cheap car, and wasn’t dressed well. He then said that he had respected and taken me out. But I didn’t like his sexual comments so ended up blocking him. He was going to type something, but I blocked him early. Would you say this is normal to do? And I didn’t come across as rude?
You both sound awful and in future pay for your own meal!
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Agree with Scotney you both sound unlikeable.
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Agree with Scotney you both sound unlikeable.
PRSOM!
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(Original post by Anonymous)
So I went on a date yesterday, he took me to a restaurant in the city which was about £52 which isn’t much. Plus he received a parking ticket around £60 or more. So when I got home, he started telling me he’s “horny” etc and then I just told him that he hadn’t lost much money on me anyway, he came in a cheap car, and wasn’t dressed well. He then said that he had respected and taken me out. But I didn’t like his sexual comments so ended up blocking him. He was going to type something, but I blocked him early. Would you say this is normal to do? And I didn’t come across as rude?
It doesn't matter what he did or what he spent, if he crossed a boundary and made you feel uncomfortable - the block was necessary. You don't owe him anything and certainly don't need to accept sleezy sexist behavior so early on. Doesn't matter how he was dressed or how much was spent - the texting was wrong. You could have told him that you weren't comfortable and that he crossed a boundary prior to blocking but again this is up to you. Tbh it sounds like he was after sex, not a relationship. Any decent man looking for a relationship is a little more respectful early on.
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So I went on a date yesterday, he took me to a restaurant in the city which was about £52 which isn’t much. Plus he received a parking ticket around £60 or more. So when I got home, he started telling me he’s “horny” etc and then I just told him that he hadn’t lost much money on me anyway, he came in a cheap car, and wasn’t dressed well. He then said that he had respected and taken me out. But I didn’t like his sexual comments so ended up blocking him. He was going to type something, but I blocked him early. Would you say this is normal to do? And I didn’t come across as rude?
I think he knew from the moment we met and before we met that I wasn’t interested. Most guys can tell these things whether she’s interested or not. He probably knew that it would be just a meal so didn’t care about what he said lol.
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His comments were creepy, but you haven't given any context and maybe that was the kind of hints and conversations you were having before this?

However, you come across as a gold digger by complaining about the cost of the meal, his clothes and 'cheap car'. Maybe that's all he can afford? If he hadn't said he was horny, would you have made those nasty jibes back?
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