**LONG POST WARNING**
Hey everyone, these last few years I've been having this recurring argument with my parents concerning housework.
I'm currently in my last year of A Levels and studying as many nights as possible per week is crucial for my learning pace and style. However, in my house, we have a complicated relationship dynamic.
My mum usually gives in to my father's whims ( or lack thereof in terms of household duties). From my first few years of secondary school (and most of my life to be honest), she has taken on the brunt of household chores and tasks while my father does little (bar the occasional dishwasher run). She's expressed to me countless times her frustration with his unwillingness to help (for lack of a less offensive term). I've provided emotional and practical support for her such as taking on the chores, but now that I'm in my last year of A Levels, I'm worried.
My current weekly schedule with schoolwork, housework and minimal actual leisure time means I have either no time or am too exhausted to complete some meaningful study. During all this, I've been struggling with various mental health issues which have already impaired my sleep and energy to begin with.
A few days ago, on the advice of my therapist, I drew a housework rota. It includes every task with a corresponding number of points (based on intensity and frequency of the task). It even accounts for everyone's work schedule. However, when presenting this task to my parents, although my mum seemed enthusiastic enough about the idea, my father is the opposite claiming that 'he's never free during the day' and his time outside work is 'his time'.
I'm obviously very frustrated because I've expressed countless times that the current weekly schedule is draining me emotionally and physically. To make it worse, the university course I'm applying to has very high minimum grades and, at this rate, I'm going to have to survive on no sleep, coffee and anxiety.
Sorry for the long rant but does anybody have any advice on what to do next? I honestly feel like I'm at the end of my tether as I don't really receive much support from my family to begin with.
Thanks for reading