I can't do it

Coming on here and sharing how you feel is a really good start to finding ways to feel better. Have you contacted the support people at uni? The uni itself will have support in place, and there is probably something run by the student union as well - have a look around on the uni and student union websites. Lots of unis also have a Nightline which you can phone and talk to someone during the night. Talking to someone will help you feel a bit better, and they may be able to give you suggestions about things you could join in with. If that feels too difficult, copy the post you have posted here and send it to the support people at uni, so they can help you.

Moving to uni is huge and lots of people do find it difficult and overwhelming. It is more difficult at the moment because of Covid - as you say it is more difficuly to meet people who are more like you - and there will be plenty of them out there.

Are there any societies you can join who maybe are doing something in person or even on-line - something you can join in with which you enjoy? Is there any sport going on which you could join in with, even if you are not that sporty. Has your course actually started yet? You might feel better once you actually have something to do. Have you found any whatsapp or Facebook groups for others doing your course? You might be able to meet up with one or two people on those, even if it's just outside to go for a walk and talk about your subject.

I think you need to go out for a walk each day too - even if it's just to a shop to buy yourself a sandwich or something else you enjoy to eat - you will start to feel worse if you don't eat, and you will feel worse if you just stay indoors. It can be difficult to motivate yourself to do this but it will make a difference.

Try and cope with one day at a time - find one thing to do each day which takes you out of your flat. Tell yourself that you can cope until the end of today/this week/this month/ this year. Remind yourself of why you want to study your subject, what excites you about it, why you decided to go to uni.

But at the end of the day, if you have tried all these, and really reached out and spoken to people about how you feel, but still feel the same way,
it might be better to go home. But not yet, not until you have given yourself a really good try at making in work.

I hope you find some people - even just one person- to connect with, and things start to feel better soon

Hi created an account just to let you know you aren't alone. It's my first full day at uni and I have exactly zero friends. I was counting on getting along with flatmates for the first week but it seems like they all have their own friend groups already. I feel really homesick and just finished crying alone in my room haha. I'm pretty shy and inserting myself into groups/parties is really daunting. I know we should be putting ourselves out there more but I've just been starting off with small things like saying hi to people who are alone and wandering around sometimes (even though it's embarrasing). I really hope things get better for both of us .

Best of luck. Hopefully it'll get better, though slowly. What's the alternative though ? Going home doesn't improve your long term situation, quite the opposite. Now you're trying to improve things, well done and keep trying.

I moved into uni a few days ago and I want more than anything to be back home. I was originally supposed to start last year but ended up taking a deferral as I felt so anxious about it all and didn't want to leave home. After a lot of thought I decided to take my deferred place as I want to get the degree and convinced myself I would be able to get past the other stuff. The whole typical 'uni lifestyle' that everyone talks about isn't for me. I don't drink and I'm not a fan of parties or clubs - but I have been constantly told that shouldn't be an issue. My flatmates are nice but they are into those things so I've been alone a lot. I've spent most of my time crying in my room and wishing more than anything that I was back home with my parents. I've hardly been eating and have a constant sinking feeling in my stomach. I really don't know what to do. Nobody seems to be taking covid seriously either. We aren't supposed to be mixing with other flats but a lot of people seems to be doing so. Under normal circumstances, I might have met other people like me who feel homesick and don't wish to go out drinking, but the restrictions are making it impossible. Is anyone else feeling the same? I feel as though it's just me.

That's what I keep thinking, but I really am so miserable.

I moved into uni a few days ago and I want more than anything to be back home. I was originally supposed to start last year but ended up taking a deferral as I felt so anxious about it all and didn't want to leave home. After a lot of thought I decided to take my deferred place as I want to get the degree and convinced myself I would be able to get past the other stuff. The whole typical 'uni lifestyle' that everyone talks about isn't for me. I don't drink and I'm not a fan of parties or clubs - but I have been constantly told that shouldn't be an issue. My flatmates are nice but they are into those things so I've been alone a lot. I've spent most of my time crying in my room and wishing more than anything that I was back home with my parents. I've hardly been eating and have a constant sinking feeling in my stomach. I really don't know what to do. Nobody seems to be taking covid seriously either. We aren't supposed to be mixing with other flats but a lot of people seems to be doing so. Under normal circumstances, I might have met other people like me who feel homesick and don't wish to go out drinking, but the restrictions are making it impossible. Is anyone else feeling the same? I feel as though it's just me.

I feel exactly like this, so glad I'm not alone. It feels so awful and suffocating

I feel exactly the same. I cry multiple times every single day and I really want to go home. My parents say that if that's what I really want then they will support my decision. But i'm worried i'm making my decision too quickly because I am homesick (This is my 5th day here), but I really don't think I can be here much longer. I'm constantly nervous, lost my appetite, and have a low mood. And I have always found it hard to talk to people, even with past friends, so this is even more amplified.

Plus, with covid going on, I feel like it's much harder to meet people, and I'm not in a flat, but halls so I don't really see much of the same people very often. Its very isolating. I am thinking would it be so bad to just stay at home and commute this year (as im doing a foundation year and then moving onto my course next year) and then next year I can live by myself, and hopefully live in a flat so its easier to meet people, also hopefully then covid will not be a problem so i can meet people in the uni as well.
Really struggling on what to do, not gonna lie.

I’ve been at uni a week and a half and feel pretty similar. Though there are more good days than bad, my bad days are almost unbearable. I’m 3 1/2 hrs away from home, 2 of my flatmates are showing Covid symptoms and 3 are getting tested tomorrow.

I’m normally quite anxious but this is just next level and it hits me when I’ve finished my work and have suddenly got nothing to think about. I’ve cried so many times already and I just never imagined that uni would be this strenuous on my mental health. My flatmates are all so lovely but we’re not very similar (I’m not a fan of drinking), I’ve always been horrible at socialising and now that I’m Isolating I definitely can’t meet people so it’s just 10 times worse. I didn’t even engage in freshers and now it feels like I’m being punished for something I didn’t even do.

To all you guys above I’d say just wait until your course starts. I started on Monday and I’ve been feeling a bit better because I’ve got other things to focus on. We’ve got to stay positive and look for light on the other side.

Maybe we should all just make a gc and become friends🙃🙂

Oh no that's so scary! There are rumours going around that people in other flats are getting tested here too. I'm so worried about it all and don't feel safe at all. I'm trying to stick it out until my course starts but I just want to be back home. I'd feel so much better if we were able to just work from home. I don't see the difference as everything is online anyway. Some of us could be in the same uni and not even know!