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Foot fetish

I want a girl who will accept my foot fetish. I’m a good looking guy but I’m so shy due to my foot fetish, I’ve got so much love to give, I am a kind giving person, I’m very affectionate but I’m scared to tell people about my fetish it makes me isolate from girls as I’m scared I’ll freak them out. I like normal things about sex too but I’d love to also indulge in my foot fetish, I’m just curious would this put you girls off if a guy you liked confessed he had a foot fetish?
Like it’s making me feel lonely always being single, I’ve had lots of people say how you are always single you are so handsome, I’ve had girls smile at me but I always look away, it’s like I’m ashamed of who I truly am.

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Reply 1
You sound exactly just like me, but I am older, the thing is women don't have these fetishes like guys, OK there may be a very tiny few who like rough sex, being tied up or whipped, but it's very rare, A guy having any kind of fetish will almost always put a girl off, because this is how the media and upbringing trains them, any guy who has a fetish is a dangerous weirdo, as is any guy on his own. All the woman wants is someone with lots of friends and to to take care of her and normal sex. Your fetish will isolate you from males and females, I'm speaking from experience, sorry to tell you this but it's how it is. I wouldn't dare tell any one about my fetishes. There is a reason why single men with no friends stay single, it's not a good situation for the upbringing of a child, and that is a woman's instinct, to find a good guy, good with people and able to support a family to produce a healthy child. I have a lot to give but no one is interested, I think I understand my foot fetish was the result of my upbringing, I was physically abused as a child by my dad, my parents favoured my sister and she knew that and deliberately got me told off so she could play on her own with out me in her way, also it affected my relations with male friends, My dad didn't like me having friends around and on the few occasions they did come he made them feel uneasy, my dad was controlling and nasty to my mum as well, All of this combined with the fact I spent a lot of time between my mums legs travelling in a motor cycle side car whilst my sister stayed on top I think made me feel inferior to women and that's why I am like I am today.
Some woman will like it. I wish my guy had a foot fetish. Lol.
Reply 3
Original post by Altvamp
You sound exactly just like me, but I am older, the thing is women don't have these fetishes like guys, OK there may be a very tiny few who like rough sex, being tied up or whipped, but it's very rare, A guy having any kind of fetish will almost always put a girl off, because this is how the media and upbringing trains them, any guy who has a fetish is a dangerous weirdo, as is any guy on his own. All the woman wants is someone with lots of friends and to to take care of her and normal sex. Your fetish will isolate you from males and females, I'm speaking from experience, sorry to tell you this but it's how it is. I wouldn't dare tell any one about my fetishes. There is a reason why single men with no friends stay single, it's not a good situation for the upbringing of a child, and that is a woman's instinct, to find a good guy, good with people and able to support a family to produce a healthy child. I have a lot to give but no one is interested, I think I understand my foot fetish was the result of my upbringing, I was physically abused as a child by my dad, my parents favoured my sister and she knew that and deliberately got me told off so she could play on her own with out me in her way, also it affected my relations with male friends, My dad didn't like me having friends around and on the few occasions they did come he made them feel uneasy, my dad was controlling and nasty to my mum as well, All of this combined with the fact I spent a lot of time between my mums legs travelling in a motor cycle side car whilst my sister stayed on top I think made me feel inferior to women and that's why I am like I am today.

Well I appreciate the honestly but doesn’t fill me which much confidence

Original post by Anonymous
Some woman will like it. I wish my guy had a foot fetish. Lol.

Thanks that’s good to know, I wish I knew a girl like you who wanted a man with a foot fetish lol
Reply 4
Sorry but it wasn't meant to give you confidence, the chances of finding the right person with a foot fetish is gonna be very hard, even if you find a woman who likes it you still gotta get on in other ways. not so easy. The problem I also found is that having a foot fetish often means a shoe fetish as well, then the woman starts thinking you like her shoes more than her and that's the end of that relationship.
Reply 5
Original post by Altvamp
Sorry but it wasn't meant to give you confidence, the chances of finding the right person with a foot fetish is gonna be very hard, even if you find a woman who likes it you still gotta get on in other ways. not so easy. The problem I also found is that having a foot fetish often means a shoe fetish as well, then the woman starts thinking you like her shoes more than her and that's the end of that relationship.

Yeah I understand it wasn’t meant to give confidence I just mean it sounds pretty bleak lol. I don’t have a shoe fetish, I just like the females bare feet, I do understand it’s going to very hard for me to find someone, I’ve kind of accepted I might always be alone, but I’d rather not be. I guess I’ll find out, it does suck how society judge people who are different.
Original post by Anonymous
Yeah I understand it wasn’t meant to give confidence I just mean it sounds pretty bleak lol. I don’t have a shoe fetish, I just like the females bare feet, I do understand it’s going to very hard for me to find someone, I’ve kind of accepted I might always be alone, but I’d rather not be. I guess I’ll find out, it does suck how society judge people who are different.

It's so much easier nowadays. People are open to all sorts. I'd be totally cool with it, well unless it was overbearing and took over the relationship. I don't think the future is bleak for you.
Reply 7
Original post by Anonymous
It's so much easier nowadays. People are open to all sorts. I'd be totally cool with it, well unless it was overbearing and took over the relationship. I don't think the future is bleak for you.

Thank you so much 😊
Reply 8
Yes it does, women think I am dangerous just because I am alone and just because I have a fetish, yet they live with abusive "normal" macho men, men who treat them badly etc. I suppose you could wear a t shirt saying talk to me I have a foot fetish? It's hard enough finding someone.let alone someone who is OK with it or likes it, I've tried dating sites like alt.com but it costs a fortune with little success as most of the listings are fakes and they rip people off and some of the people on there seemed quite boring to me.
There is young woman out there that will date a guy that has a foot fetish we are now in 2020 not 1920 be honest from the outset when you date the woman she will more than respect you for been very honest with her there is lots of woman that like to have there feet pampered and massaged and worshipped there is web sites you can find woman on that like to date guys that are in to a foot fetish
Original post by Altvamp
Yes it does, women think I am dangerous just because I am alone and just because I have a fetish, yet they live with abusive "normal" macho men, men who treat them badly etc. I suppose you could wear a t shirt saying talk to me I have a foot fetish? It's hard enough finding someone.let alone someone who is OK with it or likes it, I've tried dating sites like alt.com but it costs a fortune with little success as most of the listings are fakes and they rip people off and some of the people on there seemed quite boring to me.

I think your problem is not your foot fetish, but the way your blame women for not accepting your fetish while 'living with abusive normal macho men'.
You need to take a look at how you present yourself.
OP could online date and bring it up in conversation that he is into feet, some women will be willing to give it a go and some won't. I have a feeling that you'd start with accusatory comments about how women are wrong for not accepting you, and that's a real turn off.
Original post by Altvamp
Yes it does, women think I am dangerous just because I am alone and just because I have a fetish, yet they live with abusive "normal" macho men, men who treat them badly etc. I suppose you could wear a t shirt saying talk to me I have a foot fetish? It's hard enough finding someone.let alone someone who is OK with it or likes it, I've tried dating sites like alt.com but it costs a fortune with little success as most of the listings are fakes and they rip people off and some of the people on there seemed quite boring to me.

And the way you think that all women want to be taken care of and just have normal sex, that's not a normal way of thinking. Women have fetishes, women can have high sex drives, many women here are striving for high flying jobs.
OP states what he has to offer, you just feel sorry for yourself and think women are the problem.
People are into weirder things than feet.
OP don't take advice from this guy, he is completely wrong about everything.
Reply 12
You've spent to much time on the internet I think, There are lots of porn stars who like fetishes if you pay them a grand, I've seen those sites of course, how many have you met on those sites?

Original post by Anonymous
I think your problem is not your foot fetish, but the way your blame women for not accepting your fetish while 'living with abusive normal macho men'.
You need to take a look at how you present yourself.
OP could online date and bring it up in conversation that he is into feet, some women will be willing to give it a go and some won't. I have a feeling that you'd start with accusatory comments about how women are wrong for not accepting you, and that's a real turn off.

No, completely wrong because it would never get that far, as soon as you mention it 99% of women will disappear quicker than a puff of smoke especially on line, you have to remember that the number of guys a woman gets interest from is high, even more so on line so they can afford to be very picky and maybe pick the wrong ones because so many times you hear of the really nice impressive guy who turns out to be a nasty ass, because it's the smooth talkers and confidence tricksters who win.
@Altvamp look I know it will be a lot harder for me to find a partner than a guy who doesn’t have a foot fetish but you are being pretty negative basically trying to make out it’s like 99.9% certain that no girl will ever go near me due to my fetish. Like @Scottishlad888 and anon #2 both seem to think some people will be open minded to it and anon#2 is a women who has said she’d even be cool with it if her guy had a foot fetish. So that there shows there’s women out there who would be ok with it, I do know a lot of women also won’t like it & it’s why I’m so shy about it but tbh the way you talk you just make me feel like more of a freak that I shouldn’t even bother EVER trying to talk to a girl and just give up.
Reply 14
You arequite rude for awoman

Original post by Anonymous
You're a stereotypical incel. That is why women run. We can sniff out an incel a mile away.
I'm a woman. I know more about women than you do. As if you think women don't have fetishes, that's actually laughable.
Poor OP thinking that your advice is potentially correct, it's just incel drivel.

You are quite rude, you don't sound like a woman but you sound like a troll, resorting to insults, incapable of discussion without insults, I was going to write a long reply as non of those traits apply to me and don't wish to waste time trying to explain it to a rude troll.Why don't you post something useful to the OP instead ms perfect
Reply 15
Original post by Anonymous
@Altvamp look I know it will be a lot harder for me to find a partner than a guy who doesn’t have a foot fetish but you are being pretty negative basically trying to make out it’s like 99.9% certain that no girl will ever go near me due to my fetish. Like @Scottishlad888 and anon #2 both seem to think some people will be open minded to it and anon#2 is a women who has said she’d even be cool with it if her guy had a foot fetish. So that there shows there’s women out there who would be ok with it, I do know a lot of women also won’t like it & it’s why I’m so shy about it but tbh the way you talk you just make me feel like more of a freak that I shouldn’t even bother EVER trying to talk to a girl and just give up.

Yes I look forward to hearing from Scottishlad888 how many he has met from these sites, I didn't say there weren't any but the numbers are small, I guess it was inevitable that one would pop up and say "I Like it" or say that some women do like it, clearly they didn't read my post properly as they thought I said no women liked it. perhaps I am a pessimist but I'm certainly not an incel but I find being called that by someone that has never met me or spoken to me quite offensive.
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Original post by Anonymous
@Altvamp look I know it will be a lot harder for me to find a partner than a guy who doesn’t have a foot fetish but you are being pretty negative basically trying to make out it’s like 99.9% certain that no girl will ever go near me due to my fetish. Like @Scottishlad888 and anon #2 both seem to think some people will be open minded to it and anon#2 is a women who has said she’d even be cool with it if her guy had a foot fetish. So that there shows there’s women out there who would be ok with it, I do know a lot of women also won’t like it & it’s why I’m so shy about it but tbh the way you talk you just make me feel like more of a freak that I shouldn’t even bother EVER trying to talk to a girl and just give up.

Take my word for it you are no freak l like feet and l will not talk about it on TSR as l said there is more woman into feet than you will ever know dont let anyone put you of talking to woman when you date a woman say for a few month then you can talk with her regards having a foot fetish when you are in bed with her take my word she will not run away most younger woman like a guy to play with there feet as long as you can please them in other ways in bed and not only the feet dont beat yourself down no more if you date a woman and she does not like you as you have a foot fetish its her loss you have to get yourself out there and start talking with girls get one to date and take it from there get to know her for a few weeks then give her body some tickling and just come out to her with a smile on your face and say l am going to give your feet a nice massage and give them a very nice tickle and she will burst out laughing not laughing at you she is laughing along with you thats what you want then take it from there girl love a guy thats a bit up front
Reply 17
Yes well done, tell him what he wants to hear, boost his confidence.
Op you have nothing to worry about. Foot fetish is in the top 3 fetishes of men. It's somewhat normalised now with insta, if you look in insta there are so many foot models and girls showing off their feet and men embracing their foot fetish on those platforms.

Everytime there is a fit girl who post a pic and happens to be wearing heels which shows off their feet, in the comments there is some dude commenting about how sexy her feet is lol.

You'd be surprised how open minded girls are nowadays with foot fetish and various other fetishes.
Original post by Altvamp
Yes well done, tell him what he wants to hear, boost his confidence.

leave the guy alone l tell him the truth

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