Online friend won’t talk yet.

Yeah she might do in the future - some people take longer to open up than others. Or maybe she hates her voice - I hate doing voice calls because I sound like a 10 year old and so I prefer to chat as well - she may just be embarrassed by it. The fact that she still messages on the chat suggests to me that this might be the case! Or maybe she's a catfish? Who knows. Discord is weird though because there are so many catfishes. You can literally enter their photos into google reverse image search and it will be some blurry stock photo from 2010.

My guesses:
1. shy
2. insecure
3. a catfish

Personally, I think she's just insecure and/or shy

Yeah she might do in the future - some people take longer to open up than others. Or maybe she hates her voice - I hate doing voice calls because I sound like a 10 year old and so I prefer to chat as well - she may just be embarrassed by it. The fact that she still messages on the chat suggests to me that this might be the case! Or maybe she's a catfish? Who knows. Discord is weird though because there are so many catfishes. You can literally enter their photos into google reverse image search and it will be some blurry stock photo from 2010.

My guesses:
1. shy
2. insecure
3. a catfish

Personally, I think she's just insecure and/or shy

Sounds like a lot of effort for not much in return. You must have the patience of a saint!

Are there not any "real" people in your life you could focus on?

I wouldn't be concerned about it, I have a friend that I been messaging for 4+ years and we have never spoken with voice chat. I have even met her in real life but she isn't a fan of vc and that is ok.

I would never ditch a good friend because they aren't comfortable using voice chat.

Oh, so your saying that You can still have a good friendship and meet them without having to vc?

I’m sorry for reviving this chat thread again. But for my birthday she drew me a personalised Picture which was suppose to be her and she made it personal to myself. Like this is a rlly amazing drawing and you can tell this took a lot of time to make. And I know she made it since it was personalised.

So taking this into consideration, I believe she does care about our friendship and she genuinely likes me as a friend. (Who would go out of their way and send 5 hours on a drawing for someone online?).

But even so she refuses to talk on voice call and says she can’t. I always ask and she always says “idk” or when I suggest things such as “are you shy?” Or is it “overwhelming having an online friend?”. She normally says no. But she did admit she is shy.

I don’t mind waiting for her to open up in her own time. I don’t wanna force her. However how long should I give it before it would be wise to give up?. We have lots of fun texting and making jokes while sharing memes. And I would HATE to lose her.

And if she isn’t speaking to me on vc does that mean she doesn’t actually value the friendship?

If you've heard her voice before, she's clearly not a catfish. So she might just either be insecure/very shy/awkward. Plus some people just aren't a fan of voicechatting

i hate vc sm so she might just be insecure and shy

Ok so quick update. She introduced me to her irl friends where I was able to talk with them on voice chat. So I can now confirm she isn’t a catfish. So it just leaves it at insecure. I mean since she did decide to Introduce me to her irl friends it kinda suggests that she does care and stuff. But now my question is what’s the best thing to do now? How can I encourage her to talk?? Her friends do it but she doesn’t?. Is there a way to help her become less insecure or shy?