Living in an Accommodation is "bad"

Hi,
So i had a conversation with my dad that in my last 2 years of degree i want to move out and stay in accommodation and study then it is about 50mins of drive to my house. i used to commute to university for 2 years but in those 2 years, i hardly managed to attend my morning classes. so in the upcoming 2 years i have told my dad and he said there are people who commute from London to university in Essex (thats where i am currently) and so you near to uni so why do you want to move out and i have told him and my last 2 years are crucial and i am tired of traveling every day whereas now if i do move out the accom is 5 mins away from the university.
He then said i have, i have been in your stage when i stayed at the hostel (accom) while studying and i hardly used to focus because there was no one who could stop me if i am doing "bad" e.g. going out at night to watch movies or going partying or just having fun etc. Hostel life distracts you from studying because there is no one who can stop you when you are doing wrong. He then said you have the last 2 years so focus on your study hostel life will distract you and make you do bad stuff like going out, enjoying, and partying.
Is that true, tbh i do not have any friends at university i am an introvert so i can hardly say hi to even a female and i even said to my parents that i don't have any friends at university except one who lives in my city(my sixth form friend) but he doesn't, believe me, he was like yeah we know i have been there when i was around your age.
My main focus really is to study not to enjoy around but they don't seem to understand my point that well.

You're an adult, so if you want to move out and live in accommodation you can. They don't have to understand it or like it, they just need to accept it.

It is your university experience not your dads, if you want to live away from home then update student finance with this and it will be reflected in the maintenance loan you are awarded. Use this money to pay for your accommodation and living costs away from home.
Most universities do some sort of female only accommodation and nobody is partying anyway with the current covid situation.

They just make me feel guilty that I have booked accommodation. I told them and they didn't give me any good response like not supportive of my decision.

my parents are like we are your well-wisher. We won't suggest you anything that is not in your favour. I have booked myself a studio apartment as i am very shy and an introvert so dont like talking to many people. I have already updated my student finance and i can definitely afford plus i do part-time too.
its just i feel guilty now like i know i haven't taken the wrong decision because my intentions are not to party or anything as such but it just makes me sad that they don't understand me. to motivate myself to study, i need to be in an environment like a university where i can focus well but i just hate driving every day also the weather just demotivates me too and guess everyone so i cant be bothered to drive 45 mins every day to university in rain.

Driving for nearly two hours is not a good use of time - you could be studying. How tiring it mus be too -

You're doing the right thing by moving out - you'll have more time to focus on your degree

Trust me it is not. I get so tired. it also raining 95% of the time and it just not motivate me to go to uni. There are times when i have 1 lecture at 9am and just have to travel 50 mins for that.

Do you use the A12 because that's a terrible road ... I'm a teacher and sometimes have to support students to get their parents to understand. What if you need to go to the library or see a tutor - impossible if you are at home!

Living in student or other private rental accommodation for uni is not bad.
I suspect that your parents are just being controlling and are committed to a family tradition of young women continuing to live at home until marriage.

My parents didn't want me to move away for uni where I would be beyond 90% of their reach; far away from their influence and demands.
To try preventing me from leaving my mother stole my lifesavings and then gave me a few ultimatums including inheritance.
I escaped before a level results were out and will never go back.
My best friends parents were born in India and encouraged all their children to move out for uni; giving generous monthly allowances & buying them properties.
Good luck!

That is crazy. My parents have the same thinking. My best friend wanted me n her to go and spend 1 night in london it was her birthday and i knew my parents won't agree but she said i'll talk. she talked to my dad and a day later my mum came and said "how can you even think we can let you out and stay a night in a hotel. We don't wanna break a record (me never spent a night anywhere record)" i wasn't shook about them saying no but the reason behind the no was that they dont want to break that record that i have never in my life spend a night anywhere really did hurt me.

SO you just left and never went back? my parents are controlling. there is no way i can even express my emotions and my point of view because i know they will never agree because they think our generation don't think as good as them and we are stubborn

Yes.
I go out of my way to avoid all three living ancestors like the plague, I doubt that I'll ever speak to them again.

thats the spirit! i dont know if i can ever do that because i always end up feeling guilty even if its not my fault but i will definitely move out

Hi,
So i had a conversation with my dad that in my last 2 years of degree i want to move out and stay in accommodation and study then it is about 50mins of drive to my house. i used to commute to university for 2 years but in those 2 years, i hardly managed to attend my morning classes. so in the upcoming 2 years i have told my dad and he said there are people who commute from London to university in Essex (thats where i am currently) and so you near to uni so why do you want to move out and i have told him and my last 2 years are crucial and i am tired of traveling every day whereas now if i do move out the accom is 5 mins away from the university.
He then said i have, i have been in your stage when i stayed at the hostel (accom) while studying and i hardly used to focus because there was no one who could stop me if i am doing "bad" e.g. going out at night to watch movies or going partying or just having fun etc. Hostel life distracts you from studying because there is no one who can stop you when you are doing wrong. He then said you have the last 2 years so focus on your study hostel life will distract you and make you do bad stuff like going out, enjoying, and partying.
Is that true, tbh i do not have any friends at university i am an introvert so i can hardly say hi to even a female and i even said to my parents that i don't have any friends at university except one who lives in my city(my sixth form friend) but he doesn't, believe me, he was like yeah we know i have been there when i was around your age.
My main focus really is to study not to enjoy around but they don't seem to understand my point that well.

You're an adult, so if you want to move out and live in accommodation you can. They don't have to understand it or like it, they just need to accept it.