Insta likes in a relationship bad ??

I’m a very conscious person and really struggle with body image and all my boyfriend does is like pictures of girls that just look nothing like me me and him have previously gotten into some arguments about it because he’s not respecting it and my feeling. He has previously spoken to a girl behind my back and we are still working on that and as in we I mean me. I working on getting over that but I can’t help but still look at her Instagram and think about what did she do that I didn’t because this all happened when I was going through a hard depression time and this girl gain feelings for him through messages and she threatened to kill her self he stop it when she sent nudes because he realised then it was wrong but he wasn’t even gonna tell me I only knew cause I found out through Instagram dms from the girl so now everytime some stranger messages me on Instagram it give me a panic attack because I think it’s happening again. But he liked this picture of girl recently (different girl) and I pointed it out and he said she’s gross so I said why’s you like and she’s literally your type on paper and he’s such a hypocrite cause he’s literally called her his friend sent her kisses and checked on her before but now he’s calling her gross cause I pointed it out ??

This guy sounds like a cheating *******. Liking insta pics is not a bad thing in itself but if it’s images of girls constantly and youve said how it makes you uncomfortable it’s clear he doesn’t care about your feelings

Thank you I just don’t want to feel crazy or like im being stupid about it

You’re definitely not, I’ve been I n a relationship for 5 years and I’ve had talks about this kind of thing with him in the past and he made the effort to change.

The biggest red flag here isn’t the photos themself but his attitude. He’s doing something that he knows upsets you, doesn’t care and has already cheated on the past this all adds up into a red flag the size of a house lol.

I addressed it and let’s just say we got absolutely no where, I cried and told him about how it made me feel and he acted like a complete ********. The whole time with a smile on his face such a prick I said how it makes me feel abs just because he didn’t understand he didn’t see the problem then he made fun of it saying so if I like a picture of my mate does that make me gay. It frustrates me soooooo much i gave up trying to explain because he devalued my feelings and the importance I even told him that just because you don’t understand doesn’t mean those feelings don’t matter. I feel like a joke to him every time I get upset I feel like he’s laughing at me. I’ve spoken to his mum and she said he’ll grow out of it but like your old enough comon but she said it was the same with his dad at first.

You’re definitely not, I’ve been I n a relationship for 5 years and I’ve had talks about this kind of thing with him in the past and he made the effort to change.

The biggest red flag here isn’t the photos themself but his attitude. He’s doing something that he knows upsets you, doesn’t care and has already cheated on the past this all adds up into a red flag the size of a house lol.

I addressed it and let’s just say we got absolutely no where, I cried and told him about how it made me feel and he acted like a complete ********. The whole time with a smile on his face such a prick I said how it makes me feel abs just because he didn’t understand he didn’t see the problem then he made fun of it saying so if I like a picture of my mate does that make me gay. It frustrates me soooooo much i gave up trying to explain because he devalued my feelings and the importance I even told him that just because you don’t understand doesn’t mean those feelings don’t matter. I feel like a joke to him every time I get upset I feel like he’s laughing at me. I’ve spoken to his mum and she said he’ll grow out of it but like your old enough comon but she said it was the same with his dad at first.

Sounds l like an *******, move on. relationships are about compromise, if you don't like something to the point that it makes you insecure or gives you poor mental health, it's your partner's responsibility to compromise and make changes to improve things and vice versa. If he's laughing at you and refusing to stop then what else will he do the same with in the future?

I agree with



It's a huge red flag of a serious personality flaw. I can speak from experience, men can change but it takes years for us to learn. Do you have that much time to give?

I’m a very conscious person and really struggle with body image and all my boyfriend does is like pictures of girls that just look nothing like me me and him have previously gotten into some arguments about it because he’s not respecting it and my feeling. He has previously spoken to a girl behind my back and we are still working on that and as in we I mean me. I working on getting over that but I can’t help but still look at her Instagram and think about what did she do that I didn’t because this all happened when I was going through a hard depression time and this girl gain feelings for him through messages and she threatened to kill her self he stop it when she sent nudes because he realised then it was wrong but he wasn’t even gonna tell me I only knew cause I found out through Instagram dms from the girl so now everytime some stranger messages me on Instagram it give me a panic attack because I think it’s happening again. But he liked this picture of girl recently (different girl) and I pointed it out and he said she’s gross so I said why’s you like and she’s literally your type on paper and he’s such a hypocrite cause he’s literally called her his friend sent her kisses and checked on her before but now he’s calling her gross cause I pointed it out ??

I addressed it and let’s just say we got absolutely no where, I cried and told him about how it made me feel and he acted like a complete ********. The whole time with a smile on his face such a prick I said how it makes me feel abs just because he didn’t understand he didn’t see the problem then he made fun of it saying so if I like a picture of my mate does that make me gay. It frustrates me soooooo much i gave up trying to explain because he devalued my feelings and the importance I even told him that just because you don’t understand doesn’t mean those feelings don’t matter. I feel like a joke to him every time I get upset I feel like he’s laughing at me. I’ve spoken to his mum and she said he’ll grow out of it but like your old enough comon but she said it was the same with his dad at first.