boyfriend doesn’t last long

I’m beginning to hate sex as it lasts under a minute and i’m always left unsatisfied. i get excited and ready for it then i’m left feeling slightly used? used isn’t the right word bc he treats me so well and we are great together but i just don’t know what to say or how to address this.
i usually don’t let him go down as it makes me feel as if he’s only doing it bc he feels bad/guilt abt finishing quickly. It makes me feel awkward.
has anyone had any experience with this?
i have no idea what to do but i’m getting really fed up with getting excited then let down every single time

he likes going down and initiates it a lot. however when he initiates it AFTER the sex i always feel embarrassed / awkward and guilty, as if he’s only wanting to do it bc he knows he finished quickly. As if he feels he has to do it to keep me happy but i’d just prefer he didn’t do it bc it makes me feel awkward bc he has finished and is no longer in the mood. So i usually just say no it’s fine but i’d acc really love him to!! i just know his arousal is done with so i don’t ask him to finish me when i know he won’t enjoy it as much as when he is aroused before the intercourse

Ah OK. So it's not that bad. If he likes going down on you to begin with then he likes it afterwards as well. I get it he's not supercharged horny because he shot his load but that doesn't mean he doesn't want to. Master does that with me too. He likes to eat me after he cums and he does it in a different way, slower, more loving, more holistic. It's marvelous to come down gently from the high like that. Sounds like he wants to and the prob is in your mind then? Maybe tlk to him ask him if he feels ok at that time. U should totally emphasize to him wot u just told the board, lol! He'll go for it. 99 to 1.

But he is going down on her or trying to! She said so.

Girl I think you need to be patient. Dudes aren't like us. They often can't last long and it's not their fault. I hope you don't convert your own feelings of awkwardness into frustration directed at him. That will quickly ruin the greatness of sex for anyone and cause longterm issues. How does he feel about going down on you? Some of my dudes looove it!

My best guy - the mature one who is my master - does this better and for longer than any girl... pls don't tell my gfs they will not like to hear that btw He is so enthused to do it but I actually want him to take me...so we have a deal he gets to make me *** first by going down on me then I let him do whatever he likes as long as he's inside me. This lasts for absolutely ages and we both feel totally satisfied.

With younger hookups I've had to train them a little to delay and do other things. One thing that works really well is to have him masturbate to porn first, before we meet. That way his system is not at hair-trigger level and he'll be in the mood to go slower and last longer. You can then ask him to show you the porn he used. You cannot do this if you're judgmental about him doing it but if you're open I'm sure you'll find it works a treat...yeah I know I am saying that porn can save your sex life and his and that this is the opposite to normal TSR "wisdom" lol! But I'll bet I have one of the best sex lives of anyone on this board and it's because I've learned to do what's right for me and my partners and not follow "convention"

Yes I am enjoying the discussion It's great TSR is a place to be open and share these experiences for our mutual benefit. I hope OP tries some concepts to improve her situation. It really doesn't sound bad compared with lots of others.

I hope this isn't your intent in making the comment, like it should somehow be unusual enough to warrant a comment that we like sex and want to do it better.... but I learned a long time ago that people who try to shame other people during discussions about sexuality have some real problems. I can understand these topics are not everyone's cup of tea...so, if so, move along then! Leave it to the experts! If not, you can enjoy the dis with us.

nah im jus enjoyin reading these comments
how many inches is your 'master' packing btw

The "inches" obsession makes me laugh. You must be a dude coz of the way you focus on size and use the word "packing" like it's a gun... only dudes think that way....

To answer your question he's slightly above average in terms of size but he's the absolute best ever in bed. Every girl who has been with him says the exact same thing and it's not coz of size. We've talked about size in other threads. I've been with a couple of guys who were VWE and it wasn't by any means the greatest experience.

But he is going down on her or trying to! She said so.

Girl I think you need to be patient. Dudes aren't like us. They often can't last long and it's not their fault. I hope you don't convert your own feelings of awkwardness into frustration directed at him. That will quickly ruin the greatness of sex for anyone and cause longterm issues. How does he feel about going down on you? Some of my dudes looove it!

My best guy - the mature one who is my master - does this better and for longer than any girl... pls don't tell my gfs they will not like to hear that btw He is so enthused to do it but I actually want him to take me...so we have a deal he gets to make me *** first by going down on me then I let him do whatever he likes as long as he's inside me. This lasts for absolutely ages and we both feel totally satisfied.

With younger hookups I've had to train them a little to delay and do other things. One thing that works really well is to have him masturbate to porn first, before we meet. That way his system is not at hair-trigger level and he'll be in the mood to go slower and last longer. You can then ask him to show you the porn he used. You cannot do this if you're judgmental about him doing it but if you're open I'm sure you'll find it works a treat...yeah I know I am saying that porn can save your sex life and his and that this is the opposite to normal TSR "wisdom" lol! But I'll bet I have one of the best sex lives of anyone on this board and it's because I've learned to do what's right for me and my partners and not follow "convention"

if only i also received some training classes from u

Thank you! I feel like I want to be helpful. U know that time in my life (midteens) was tough and looking back I see I was lucky the way things turned out with master and how things developed. But now I feel empowered and open.

I've noticed that the quick judgment calls on boards like this are reflexive and often counterproductive coz they are based on what some call "conventional wisdom" But often it's not wisdom at all, it is just handed-down prejudice that impedes our development and understanding and diminishes respect for each other's choices.

Yeah it takes b@lls to stand up and write things like porn will help ur sex life when there is such a stigma and so many prejudices attached to it. But in this case I really believe it will help, I've seen it work before.

Thank you! I feel like I want to be helpful. U know that time in my life (midteens) was tough and looking back I see I was lucky the way things turned out with master and how things developed. But now I feel empowered and open.

May I ask how old you are? I think sex undoubtedly gets better with maturity and experience. As a man, you also learn control. I also have tried rating all your posts in this thread and PRSOM.

I’m beginning to hate sex as it lasts under a minute and i’m always left unsatisfied. i get excited and ready for it then i’m left feeling slightly used? used isn’t the right word bc he treats me so well and we are great together but i just don’t know what to say or how to address this.
i usually don’t let him go down as it makes me feel as if he’s only doing it bc he feels bad/guilt abt finishing quickly. It makes me feel awkward.
has anyone had any experience with this?
i have no idea what to do but i’m getting really fed up with getting excited then let down every single time