Advice about a guy

Hi there
So why not a video call? Since you two do not like texting.
A video call would be right.
Or do you not want it too?

Yeah that’s not a bad idea thanks

My only issue is I tend to be the one initiating most of the conversations and obvs I will be the one to suggest video calling, is this a bad sign, I don’t want to come across to eager either

Well
I understand why you might feel like that.
But the thing is, this time, it is not about just chatting with him. It is about expressing your feelings, expressing what you want, how you want that relationship to be.
So yes, you might decide to just wait for him to message you one day and then you will take it as an opportunity to talk about it. But you know it might never happen.
So, even if I completely understand how you feel, it would be a good idea to text him first to talk about all those things you want.

My only issue is I tend to be the one initiating most of the conversations and obvs I will be the one to suggest video calling, is this a bad sign, I don’t want to come across to eager either

Nah, if you're putting more work into the most simple things like initiating convo, I think it's just a waste of time. You deserve someone who's equally excited to talk to you. And him not video calling is a bit? Idk, again it's your relationship but this is just my perspective on it. In a relationship, you need to feel happy, comfortable and secure It really depends on the atmosphere and vibe of the whole thing and only you can feel that tbh. Is it weird when you do talk to him?

It will fizzle out

So I met this guy on Grindr a few months ago we video called a few times and have been on three dates since, he’s not into texting and I was really enjoying getting to know him but now with new restrictions we can’t meet, I’m worried that this will fizzle out and we don’t text much cos he’s not really into talking that way and I’m not really into it either, I want to tell him I like him but worried it will come of the wrong way especially since I can’t do it face to face?

Thanks 😂

do it if he's right he'll say the same back if not move on

Thanks out of interest how would you say it?

i'd say look i have something i wanna get off my chest and then say how you feeling it's as simple as that boo

Thanks what’ve I got to lose eh

Honestly what you’re saying has been a worry of mine, when we have met in person it’s been great, and when we do text it doesn’t feel weird but we only usually texted to meet up, now with not being able to meet we have actually played among us over the phone a few times but I just don’t know 🤷*♀️

I do agree with Rumiii, i feel like by writing this post you may already feel like it is slightly one sided- in which case, i do think you should be with someone who is just as excited to talk to you too! But a part of me also thinks that if you never say anything, it will be on your mind for a while. If i were you i would say how i felt and if i didn't get the exact response i wanted, i would end it straight away- harsh, but ultimately, its not what i want.

You are right that’s exactly how I feel... I’m gonna say how I feel and see what the response is.. thanks for your advice