I feel like a cougar!!

Firstly-there is one year difference, why would that make you a cougar?

Secondly you say he’s made it clear he’s interested, and you say you are also. So where’s the issue?

The age gap is so tiny. It won’t matter to you. My gran was older than my grandad by 2 years and they were together for decades.

I do understand that people in their early 20s seem to think this. I remember your exact situation on an episode of Dinner Date actually. However I really don’t think it’s an issue.

So recently I got close to this boy I was with at college. We both did the same course and ended up (coincidentally) at the same uni doing different courses.

He happens to be 20 and I'm 21 soon turning 22 in December. The whole thing started off suddenly. One moment we were just chatting and reminiscing the old times at college (we weren't as close at college) and the next we were making out.

Now don't get me wrong. There were very many things that happened in between but long story short, I initiated the whole process because I was really turned on (inwardly blamed it on a dry spell haha) just like he was turned on too and was doing a rubbish job at hiding it.

When I made the first move he wasn't repulsed at all even after asking if he was comfortable he confirmed that. Since then, we have been having these really hot and steamy moments and we are literally hanging out together all the time. In a relationship-y way...

But there is this creepling feeling I get time to time that I'm cougar 😂. I don't know. Like as if it's wrong?!?! I keep thinking that he is a boy and he didn't want to reject an advance made to him and that he is playing along to be polite 😅 and I'm just taking advantage?!?! He has made it clear both in actions and words that he is smitten. We are equally enthusiastic.

Bare in mind he is so sweet and gentle and kind and most importantly makes me laugh as well as turn me on. I worry that I'm falling for him now and I hate that I am because I feel too old to be with him sometimes! Can anyone show me a different perspective because I have failed to see it.

Thank you very much for that insight! Quite refreshing actually. I will take that on board.

You’re the same age and I doubt it has even registered with him. You’re stressing yourself out for no reason.

I look a lot younger than my age and tend to gravitate towards younger boys/men, had a couple of boyfriends who were 8-10-12 years younger than me, never had any issue with it, we're all consenting adults.
Calling girls/women 'cougars' for having younger partners is just misogynistic woman-shaming, men get away with a lot larger age gaps, they even brag about it 🙄

I look a lot younger than my age and tend to gravitate towards younger boys/men, had a couple of boyfriends who were 8-10-12 years younger than me, never had any issue with it, we're all consenting adults.
Calling girls/women 'cougars' for having younger partners is just misogynistic woman-shaming, men get away with a lot larger age gaps, they even brag about it 🙄

I actually see this clearly. It's the snide comments I have heard a few years ago that were making me hesitant. 🤗Thank you for this reassurance. I'm going to follow suit too.

one year difference. are you kidding me?

Hi there
OP for me you are not a cougar.
1 year gap is not to much.
And I am not sure if he is feeling like you are taking advantage of him.
I am sure he surely likes you, otherwise I would have declined your move on him.
I am the kind man who would prefer dating older women anyway.
For me you are not a cougar at all.
I am sure he likes you too.😊🙏

You're one year older, you're practically the same age

If you're capable of making your own choices then so is he

U r not a cougar. U can't play that role in any way until u r 30 and he is 18. My master was 19 and she was 43 married doctor lady.... now that's cougar territory lol!