Hi,
I'm in an unideal situation with my flatmates, any advice would be much appreciated.
Basically, I am a first year student and moved into halls this year. I am a girl, and I live with two other girls and two boys. One of the girls is never ever here so she's not part of the problem.
My flatmates are ok and I make quite a bit of effort with them, such as cleaning the kitchen, I got them advent calendars the other day and I always invite them to wherever I am going, which they sometimes accept. I would say that I am a really kind, outgoing and friendly person who cares about others a lot.
Two of them do English, one does Maths, the absent girl does geography and I do chemistry.
They make me feel really left out. For example they dont invite me when they go out, and have all ordered takeaway together when I was sitting with them and didnt ask me if I would like anything. They make a fair bit of mess in the kitchen too, I dont wash their dishes for them but I do hoover, mop, clean the hob and sides etc. They dont appreciate it and its often filthy again within a day. I also catch them giving each other funny looks when they think I am not looking, usually after I speak. They also constantly use like coded, inside jokes when I am there which feels a bit weird as I dont know what theyre taalking about. They have a group chat without me in it, which I know they message in frequently. They are all quite good friends with each other. Ive also heard them talking about not inviting me places in the hallway, which made me feel bad about myself. I feel like I have made a lot of effort to be friendly, I am extroverted and enjoy the same types of things they do. They are usually fine when by themselves, but as a group they make me feel very left out.
Its weird because Ive always found it very easy to make friends and I can make conversation with anyone, but for some reason they are being horrible to me. I have friends outside of the flat who I get on with really well, but I feel uncomfortable when my flatmates are around me because they make me feel left out. Also if anyone is interested, my personality type ESFJ-T. Any advice would be much appreciated. Thank you xx