Was I groomed or just stupid

Both, or you're a troll, in which case 'stupid' still applies.

I just want to protect my son, I swore I’d never speak of it because his dad is so manipulative, verbally abusive and can hurt me in a heartbeat physically or mentally I just don’t know what I can do, but based on the two other responses I guess it is what it is and I’ve just gotta get on with it

If you're not a troll then I'd say you've been manipulated. Being pregnant is quite obvious, did your family and friends not notice? I'd stay away from the guy, seems to be bad to you, and more importantly bad to your son. Having a child is a big responsibility, especially at your age, so make sure you get help if you need it, there'll be help out there. Mistakes do happen but now not much can be changed. Hope you get the best out of a bad situation.

If you are a troll then hope your happy with wasting people's time. In that case you've not been manipulated but completely stupid.

Thanks for that very kind, helpful input. That shall be noted. ****.

You asked, I told you, next time don't ask people if you're stupid, there's half a chance you might not like the answer.

Yeah my family aren’t very supportive etc so it’s very difficult unfortunately.

no me and him split when my son was a few months old, he found out I was pregnant and didn’t want to know so disappeared for 9 months then showed up to try play happy family’s, manipulate and tried to rape me so I basically told him to do one. He doesn’t like that I did that so he’s always seen me as an issue, he now has a new wife who doesn’t like me because we have a child together. He questions my son, screams in his face etc and he says if I try to stop him seeing him or try to get any money for child support then he’ll take me for full custody because he supposedly has the money to, financially I’m free emotionally it’s so difficult because he knows exactly how to get to me, to hurt me how he knows best

Hi. So I’ve been trying to rack my brain and figure out a lot of things. When bad stuff happens im very good at blocking things out so please bare with me. So basically when I was 15/16 I’m not 100% sure when this man contacted me but he is 8 years older. I was totally open about my age, he promised me loads of stuff, bought me presents, I thought I was safe because he was an raf man too etc etc second time meeting him he last minute booked a hotel and took me there, took me to a pub before hand and bought me alcohol, we went back to the hotel and he started trying to get it on, I said no and then I can’t remember much after that apart from being sore, anyway stupid me the next day consented to sex, 9 months later my son was born. His dad is very manipulative and controlling and he’s now affecting my sons life and mental health, he did it to me but I won’t have him do it to my son he doesn’t deserve it. After he had mentally messed with my head I did turn to drugs etc which I am now free of totally But my mental health suffered majorly from this and still does today but I just don’t know if I would have a case to try and finally speak out about this properly? Someone once mentioned to him about me and he said “oh she was old enough” and said to me “it’s ok it’s what you wanted at the time” I’m just so confused because I was 16 by the time anything had happened and it kind of feels like my word against his even though I have living dna proof I’m just a bit lost as he is very calculating and smart..very much like a narcissist to be honest.