Is it wrong to visit an escort?

So I live in Ireland and have yet to lose my virginity (in my 20s). Tinder and Bumble are ******** and want to lose it.

I was wondering if I could visit an escort, my friends say it's desperate and stupid.

Also, do you know why so few of them are Irish/English? Most escorts I see are from South America/Eastern Europe. I'm more attracted to hot women who have posh Irish/English accents.

Reply 1

999tigger

Original post by Anonymous

If you are in a relationship, then yes.
If the women arent doing it by their own volition, then yes.
Of thats what you want then pay the going rate.

Reply 2

candydiva

First dude don't tell ur friends if u do this. U will xperience judgment and negging coz the xpectations for a "normal" e.g. non-escort path of sexual development are rlly strong despite the real barriers u face.

It can help. I know dudes who have done so and as long as u r cautious and safe it can work well. Demystifying the p is rlly important in developing adult male sexuality and the forces of daily life and amplification of hypocrisy via socials make this prolly harder than it was some yrs ago.

As for ur attraction everyone has their thing... imo the prevalence of S Am/EE escorts in UK (maybe Ireland too?) occurs for two reasons. Economic migrants who use student enrollment as their cloak of legitimacy also let's be realistic we Lat Am girls and prolly E Europeans don't have those British hangups about female sexuality. We r more practical and realistic about wat we like and can do.

And oh yeah I got mistaken for being a Latina hooker several time while out in London.... so I know it's not uncommon for ppl in UK to have xperience like this even tho' I'm not an escort. I don't judge.

I know lots of girls at my unis both in UK and US who use Seeking but u prolly have to pay more for an "exclusive" feature like posh English accent. Some Russian escorts have posh accents but they r really xpensive coz they cater to the Arab sheikh clientele lol!

But dude maybe u should try Latina :colone:

... u may find nothing is hotter than hearing a sexy woman teach u dirty Spanish with her actions to suit LOL! Ay muy rico! Quiero follar contigo... como ese carino! etc..

Isn’t it illegal

/redpillers argue that most women r prostitutes coz their dating/sexual rituals are intentionally transactional (resources, food, money, lifestyle). So wat is the diff for OP? ofc women hate that word just like older female tourists in RD r in fact sex tourists just like older dudes in Thailand but they resent that term being used for them coz somehow being female they r not the same...

Reply 5

Zarek

Your friends are right. You’ll never have enjoyable sex paying for it, not to mention the unsavoury exploitation of vulnerable women it probably involves. I would keep looking for some that wants to do it

Reply 6

candydiva

Just a q... how long xactly should s'one "keep looking" in this situation? OP said he's in 20s. Everyone has a threshold. One year... three yrs... seven yrs...more...?? At some point u know the classic definition of insanity kicks in...keep repeating the same action while xpecting a diff't result....

This kind of suggestion to "keep looking" 4 that magic 1st time xperience can seem like ostriching...a denial of reality that seems unhelpful and unlikely from the pov of OP.

As for "enjoyable" wat does that mean? I don't think he is talking Disney organ crescendoes etc. Is it more "enjoyable" to finally know wat it feels like to be inside a woman or to continue to live in torment/FOMO/desperation like above while waiting fruitlessly until he is 40s/50s/lifelong virgin? Y r ppl comparing mythic sex which most ppl don't even get even in rels to the very limited reality that is available for OP as stated? Rlly....

Reply 7

Dunnig Kruger

Original post by candydiva

When my friends and I have discussed our experiences of paying for sex, there has never been any judgement nor negging.
It has always been one of acceptance mixed with some mild curiousity, as in "That's interesting. Tell us about it if you're happy to do so." with specific questions about points of interest.

It is, of course entirely the OP's choice what he does with his time and money.
I agree that Tinder and Bumble are flawed platforms for the majority of men. Because of the number of men compared to women on there, any man has to stand out in the right way to be successful.

As a suggestion for the OP, how about putting some time / money into improving your man to woman social skills?
It's generally better to invest in assets than it is to spend on liabilities.
You are an asset. Your skills are an asset. An Escort is a liability (in the broadest sense of the term).

Reply 8

chopingirl

What's the point of a one-off f*ck though? Isn't it better to find a gf or fwb so it's not just once. Plus, what are you going tell your future gf that you've been with a prostitute before, she's going to be put off.

Reply 9

Anonymous #2

I think that you should go for it mate. If my experience with paid sex is like yours you will feel a lot better afterwards. Actually I was set up by my mates at a club with a lap dancer. I had had a beer and was feeling relaxed and just went for it. I thought I would hate it and would get it all wrong, but I loved it and the girl was very attractive and professional. There was none of all the embarrassment you get with dating. It was over quickly and I felt a lot more confident with girls afterwards. We were a good place that was expensive though so bear that in mind because the cheaper end of the market can be very dodgy with weird people and rough girls.