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I want my male friend to transition.

Hello, I know this might sound crazy or like a joke but I am not kidding. I found this forum and I thought it would be a good place to ask for advice.

I am 21 years old and currently in university, throughout my entire life no woman has ever been attracted to me or shown me affection. It is very clear that if a woman was to want me it would've happened by now. I have another male friend who I will call Dan. Dan is 19 years old and goes to my same university, we are very good friends and get along very well. I have known him for multiple years and he has always been very kind to me.

Dan has the same issues with women that I do and girls do not want him because he has a small frame and short height. He has told me that in the past that he masturbates to gay pornography. He says that he's straight while doing this however and he has a feminine presence.

I know that deep down in his heart that he is meant to be a woman. I believe that he is meant to be my woman in specific. I have been talking to him and trying to put the idea of transitioning into his head and he hasn't been receptive to it. I know that he is just in denial. I just want Dan to transition to female that way I could finally have a loving relationship with a woman. It would be mutually beneficial also since as I said he has always struggled with women.

Basically what I'm asking is what strategies can I use to make Dan realize that she's a girl on the inside? How do I make him realize that he is a trans woman in denial? I am willing to pay for her HRT treatments if money is an issue, I just want love.

Thanks for reading, please help me.

- the loner(s)

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well, whatever floats your boat - this TG is a bit hyped & nudged, in my experience. But you are of course wlecome/encouraged to find your own path.
Accurately, a very very small percentage of humanity is destined to be TG; when analysed these self-identity diverse ideas can exist - but they can also be fairly transient, as in 100% this way today - then in a year 100% entirely the other way. "bursty" "noisy" not reliable (and not much researched, allegedly)

Of course everything legal should be allowed, permitted, but bear in mind that many 'converts' are likely correctly confused by the whole complex humanity 'dating' thing. Many TG are being discovered to be somewhere on the autistic-spectrum, like me, and dating 'humans' (neurotypical) is a total mystery, always has been. Don't worry about labels or status, make your friends the way you wish, but consider to leave people in their own bubble, if you can - as - who knows what they are thinking, today, tomorrow, yesterday, next-year. Hence keep asking, gently, every so often.

Other people likely have different ideas, so do ask quite a few people's advice, don't assume the truth is in whatever random answers you attract on here, including this opinion.
The fact that the guy you're trying to gender swap isn't into it and you're just determined to make it happen for your own fleshy purposes speaks volumes :tongue:
Trying to convince someone they should transition, primarily for your own benefit? That is abhorrent manipulation.
Oh my days , that's not right . You can't force someone to do that . He might not wanna transition into a woman so let him live his life how he wants. You'll find a girl soon, you're still really young what's the rush?
This is a brilliant example of internalised homophobia. Admit it, you are Gay/ Bi.

You can't pray (or in this case trans) the gay away.
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This is one of the creepiest threads I’ve ever seen on TSR.
seek professional help (for you)
Original post by gracieee16
You'll find a girl soon

Lets not get carried away here :tongue:
This is beyond sick.
Reply 10
if you're not trolling - please, please leave this poor guy alone and get professional help. this is some ****ed up ****.
Original post by Celtic Conjurer
This is beyond sick.

is OP into some weird fetish?
Original post by StriderHort
Lets not get carried away here :tongue:

Erm, what's wrong with what I said ? 😂
Reply 13
Original post by hootdoot04
is OP into some weird fetish?

pretty sure that goes without saying
Original post by StriderHort
Lets not get carried away here :tongue:

Oh, right I get it now . The girl part 😆 yeah, I don't think he'll find a girl soon. Stupid thing to say , he's so messed up . Poor his mate
Original post by gracieee16
Erm, what's wrong with what I said ? 😂

Lets be honest, the chances of this person meeting a receptive partner with attitudes like this are thankfully 'miniscule' let alone 'soon', you don't wish people like this on anyone. :tongue:
Original post by StriderHort
Lets be honest, the chances of this person meeting a receptive partner with attitudes like this are thankfully 'miniscule' let alone 'soon', you don't wish people like this on anyone. :tongue:

I totally agree, that was so wrong of me to say that, sorry 😂 . I do find it so sickening. If his mate wanted to become a girl then understandable but the fact that he doesn't and his mate is forcing him to because he wants a girlfriend is abnormal
Original post by gracieee16
I totally agree, that was so wrong of me to say that, sorry 😂 . I do find it so sickening. If his mate wanted to become a girl then understandable but the fact that he doesn't and his mate is forcing him to because he wants a girlfriend is abnormal

Assuming this story is even real (unlikely) then even if his friend did transition there's no guarantee he/she would even be attracted to or want a relationship with the OP.
Eww
Original post by gracieee16
I totally agree, that was so wrong of me to say that, sorry 😂 . I do find it so sickening. If his mate wanted to become a girl then understandable but the fact that he doesn't and his mate is forcing him to because he wants a girlfriend is abnormal

I get it's just one of those things people say like 'plenty more fish in the sea' ect, but sometimes you need to just shake your head in horror and say 'Nooooo.' :tongue:

Would be a bit awkward if he transitioned and stubbornly decided not to also be gay, (I wonder if you get an HRT refund?)