Who should lead in a relationship

Will probably get flack for this by feminists and the like, but I believe men should be the leaders in a relationship.

A wise grandad once said - ''Never let a woman stipulate the rules and engagements of the relationship. If she does, misery starts immediately.''

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Anonymous #1

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Original post by Arthur_Morgan

Will probably get flack for this by feminists and the like, but I believe men should be the leaders in a relationship.

A wise grandad once said - ''Never let a woman stipulate the rules and engagements of the relationship. If she does, misery starts immediately.''

Would it depend on the personalities of the men and women involved though? There are a lot of couples where the woman is the “bread winner” and generally Lead the interactions. And they’re still happy couples.

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username2825764

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neither the man or woman; both should be equal stakeholders in the relationship.

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Original post by Anonymous

Would it depend on the personalities of the men and women involved though? There are a lot of couples where the woman is the “bread winner” and generally Lead the interactions. And they’re still happy couples.

If they're happy with the relationship being that way then sure, go right ahead. I'm not here to assert control over another's man's relationship.

But on the flip side, I believe men should be leaders, and that includes leading in the relationship.

The essence of a man is to be assertive and set boundaries but at the same time remain stoic, level-headed and calm.

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oglez92

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Original post by Anonymous

Is this actually true though? Or is it an old fashioned view?

It's biology

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I don't think there is a "should". People are different, relationships are different; whatever works for each couple.

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Original post by Arthur_Morgan

Will probably get flack for this by feminists and the like, but I believe men should be the leaders in a relationship.

A wise grandad once said - ''Never let a woman stipulate the rules and engagements of the relationship. If she does, misery starts immediately.''

A wise grandmother once said - "The man is the head in a relationships, but the woman is the neck, and she can turn the head any way she wants" ...

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Original post by black tea

A wise grandmother once said - "The man is the head in a relationships, but the woman is the neck, and she can turn the head any way she wants" ...

If I'm understanding that quote correctly, that doesn't sound like a good thing.

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Original post by Arthur_Morgan

If I'm understanding that quote correctly, that doesn't sound like a good thing.

why not?

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gjd800

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My family is Irish, the women are always in control :lol:

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flamingolover

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Original post by Anonymous

In a healthy relationship, do you think the man should lead or should the woman lead? Or should it be an equal partnership?

For me I’d want it to be equal. A relationship should be a partner ship (for me at least)

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Original post by black tea

why not?

Well going by my interpretation, it says to me that the woman controls the man and his decisions/how he thinks.

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Original post by Arthur_Morgan

Well going by my interpretation, it says to me that the woman controls the man and his decisions/how he thinks.

Well yeah, it's saying that the man is in change but that woman directing him; but that can be interpreted in a couple of ways - that they are working together or that the woman is manipulating/controlling the man (I've heard it used to mean both).

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ShybutHi

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I think relationships should be totally equal, both should give and take, there should always be open communication, honesty, and trust.

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