I've been single for 2 years now. I would like to be in a relationship again. I've had a few interactions with girls within the last year and a half or so, those I've met through friends and at concerts, but mostly through online dating. I do wonder if I'm expecting too much of women though, and maybe my standards are too high.
I guess these are my standards/values:
Communication
Ambitious
Wants children eventually
Similar interests to me
Physically - 'little extra meat" (not too skinny, not too fat), and shorter than me
Communication:
I want someone who can hold a conversation. It's really attractive to me to have deep and meaningful conversations. Not everybodys glued to their phones but I don't want to be waiting over 2 days for a reply to texts either. I used to get really frustrated with people (girls and friends) taking ages to reply but I'm getting better with that.
Ambitious: I'm really ambitious and I want to see that in someone. That can manifest in many ways. They may want to get an education, succeed in their career, charity work, etc. I just can't be with someone with no long term goals.
Wants children eventually:
Perhaps a big one. I do want children one day. That being said, I certainly don't want to rush it. I wouldn't want to bring children into the world if I wasn't mentally, emotionally or financially able to.
Similar interests to me:
I love music (metal) and going to live gigs (pandemic permitting), playing in my band, pro wrestling, retro gaming, exercise/fitness (powerlifting), cooking (I'm vegetarian), philosophy and psychology.. It'd be nice to find someone with at least some similar interests. I think it's important for someone to have their own interests too.
Physically:
I guess I find the 'bottom heavy' girls the most attractive (thighs, bum, hips). I don't really have a preference for eye or hair colour/style, or anything like that. It's hard to quantify, but there has to be some physical attraction. I'm about 5'9-10 so average height I guess. I'm no bodybuilder but no overweight couch potato.. Just somewhere in the middle, with a bit of a belly. I have glasses, long hair and a beard. Which is like marmite I'll admit.
What are your thoughts?