Blocking bf after arguments ? Not normal. Help asap?!

Sounds like a bad relationship in general to be fair, both of you are getting into arguments, you seem to be reserved about renewing the relationship.. to be honest I wouldn't feel to bad about breaking that off if it's really not making you happy. You should also decide whether you're going to keep them blocked for good or unblocked for good - because unblocking and talking only to re-block isn't doing either of you any good. It's almost provocative. Honestly it's up to you, but at the end of the day I think we both know he's not the one - and hey, that might not be one persons fault in the relationship, some people just aren't compatible.

Do you really want to be with someone that you constantly want to break up with? Perhaps ending things and blocking him was for the best, if immature in the moment.
Take some time away from dating and relationships to work on yourself.

I think if you two really want to be together and make it work then a discussion needs to be had, and you both need to work on things.

If there's a theme to what you argue about try and see how you can both fix that, or make it better. It's good in a way to remove yourself from arguments before they get more heated.

It's also good to ask yourself if you really love him like really. Or if you love being with him and don't want to be alone. Figure out if it's worth fighting for and improve

Hey, I've read through the other replies in this thread and in my opinion (which of course you don't have to follow!) I think it would be best to go to him (either in person or via message) and apologise to him, and then say it's for the best if you have some time apart for real.

It's good that you recognise that this behaviour is toxic, that's one of the hardest things to do. But what you need to do next is work on it- working on your communication skills so that you don't have shouty/full-of-insults arguments, but instead are able to have calm discussions with your partner/others when something upsets you.

You also mention that your mental health isn't very good, and I'd really recommend seeking professional help for that. There's no shame in needing help, I promise. Unfortunately - and I do speak from experience here - having poor mental health can really affect how we perceive relationships, and how we act in them. I think it would be best for you, and any future romance- whether with him or not- for you to seek help (whether that be CBT, meds, or something else) and get yourself to a point where youre at least a little more happy in yourself, so therefore you can be a little more happy in the relationships you have.

I really do hope things work out for you!

Hey, I've read through the other replies in this thread and in my opinion (which of course you don't have to follow!) I think it would be best to go to him (either in person or via message) and apologise to him, and then say it's for the best if you have some time apart for real.

It's good that you recognise that this behaviour is toxic, that's one of the hardest things to do. But what you need to do next is work on it- working on your communication skills so that you don't have shouty/full-of-insults arguments, but instead are able to have calm discussions with your partner/others when something upsets you.

You also mention that your mental health isn't very good, and I'd really recommend seeking professional help for that. There's no shame in needing help, I promise. Unfortunately - and I do speak from experience here - having poor mental health can really affect how we perceive relationships, and how we act in them. I think it would be best for you, and any future romance- whether with him or not- for you to seek help (whether that be CBT, meds, or something else) and get yourself to a point where youre at least a little more happy in yourself, so therefore you can be a little more happy in the relationships you have.

I really do hope things work out for you!

When me snd my bf get into heated arguments I tell him we’re done and this time I blocked him on every single platform. I’ve said this like 5times now. When I say it I kinda mean it. Like I don’t want a relationship with someone like how he’s acting or things that caused the heated argument. But I want him.
I know this is a toxic thing to do.

2 days ago we had a heated argument I said we’re done I don’t want him and blocked him on everywhere. I’m really sad and can’t sleep at night. He said last time I did this that I shouldn’t do it again but I did now because I was bottling so much up and got fed up. Things is before when he tries calls me etc snd talk it out I would go back but if he wasn’t to do this we would never speak again.

Any advice on this? ( please no Criticism my mental health already so ****ed, I don’t have no one to speak to or get advice from )

Hi again, I was under the impression this had been a silly fight gone out of control, and for that I apologise, I shouldnt have assumed that. He shouldn't be making any sort of comments about your weight, that's extremely rude of him. Id say youre right to be angry with. If he tries to reach out- ask him to learn some manners and remind him it's never kind to comment on someone elses weight.

Id still recommend looking into getting help with your mental health, if youve had a partner that disrespects you that certainly won't have helped, and (again, from personal experience) things like CBT can really help you feel better and learn good coping mechanisms.

I also apologise for any weird wording in my last post and this one, I'm still waking up at the minute so my head's a little foggy.

I find the most interesting part of your post to be at the end, when you say you don't want any criticism. To me that echoes your behaviour when you have an argument with your boyfriend. In both cases you feel that you can't face anything that goes against you and your only response is to try to block it out rather than deal with it rationally.

I think if you really like him you should try to manage your anger at the heat of the moment, try not to escalate the argument too much and certainly don't block him knowing you probably will unblock him again. While you two are nice and calm talk about things you normally argue over and work out a solution both are happy with.

When me snd my bf get into heated arguments I tell him we’re done and this time I blocked him on every single platform. I’ve said this like 5times now. When I say it I kinda mean it. Like I don’t want a relationship with someone like how he’s acting or things that caused the heated argument. But I want him.
I know this is a toxic thing to do.

2 days ago we had a heated argument I said we’re done I don’t want him and blocked him on everywhere. I’m really sad and can’t sleep at night. He said last time I did this that I shouldn’t do it again but I did now because I was bottling so much up and got fed up. Things is before when he tries calls me etc snd talk it out I would go back but if he wasn’t to do this we would never speak again.

Any advice on this? ( please no Criticism my mental health already so ****ed, I don’t have no one to speak to or get advice from )

You need to argue, to resolve differences. You can't agree on everything, and if it seems like you do then one of you isn't standing up for themselves.

That said, if you genuinely want to break things off with him each time, then perhaps you aren't compatible and should break up.

What sort of things do you argue about? From what you've said it suggests you blame him completely for them, which means either you want to change him as a person into something he's not, or again, the two of you simply aren't compatible.

As for your last line about being unable to take criticism due to your mental health, I think that is your biggest issue, and any relationship is already on the rocks if you are that fragile. You may want to get that sorted before entering a new relationship if you choose to end your current one.

You need to argue, to resolve differences. You can't agree on everything, and if it seems like you do then one of you isn't standing up for themselves.

That said, if you genuinely want to break things off with him each time, then perhaps you aren't compatible and should break up.

What sort of things do you argue about? From what you've said it suggests you blame him completely for them, which means either you want to change him as a person into something he's not, or again, the two of you simply aren't compatible.

As for your last line about being unable to take criticism due to your mental health, I think that is your biggest issue, and any relationship is already on the rocks if you are that fragile. You may want to get that sorted before entering a new relationship if you choose to end your current one.