why do people remarry/redate after their partner dies?

If I died tomorrow my partner would have 40+ years ahead I hope. I’d want him to be happy!

you wouldn't mind being replaced, that sounds one sided

Fair enough you do you, but for me it depends a lot on age, if I was say 40 and died and I was married I'd not be fussed at all or even encourage my partner to find someone else. Whereas if I was like 80 and my partner has her will at the ready I wouldn't really expect it but still wouldn't be 'opposed' to it.

At the end of the day it's about what makes her happy, I'll be dead and my dying wish is for my partner and family to live the best life they can, if that means them finding someone else then I would be happy if my pile of ashes had feelings of course.

its not about being replaced, its about making your partner happy.

i get it you'll be lonely after your partners death and love will be the thing that will make you happy, but is there any other ways of finding happiness, i just view it as replacing the late partner, like not replacement as in similar but as in the role of the partner replacement, i hear people ask their partner if they'll remarry or redate after they die and they just get blindsided, like their partner automatically thinks they're wrong without listening to their reasoning, i also have to ask a catch 22 question, if you love the late partner more than the new isn't that using the new partner or if you love the new partner more than the late isn't that replacement, i actually hear widows/widowers say they love the new partner as much as the late, isn't that messed, i also think it's still infidelity because you didn't choose to end the relationship, you let death do it, and yes i know i'll be dead so i won't feel jealousy, but that doesn't make it right would you go take a crap on a dead man's grave because he's dead and can't feel anything, i'm really scared of my partner getting remarried or redating after my death, i'll never give this opinion up,

what about the question of if you love the late more than the new isn't that using the new or if you love the new more than the late isn't that replacement, and you may not have feelings but that doesn't mean you can be disrespected, like i said you would'nt take a crap on a dead man's grave because he can't feel jealousy or doesn't have feelings, that's just my opinion,

obviously you are taking things to heart. i wouldnt be that bothered tbh its their decision and not mine. if i dont respect that, im being selfish. its up to them not me.

Having an opinion =/= that opinion being worth anything.

You can love memories but you can't love dead people, nor can they love you in return.

The idea of devoting your life as a shrine to the dead is simply macabre.

yes i'm taking this serious if that's what you mean, i don't want to be replaced, i don't think not wanting to be replaced is selfish, i'm also in the minority with this opinion, i know it's their decision but their decision is scary,

what about the question of if you love the late more than the new isn't that using the new or if you love the new more than the late isn't that replacement, and you may not have feelings but that doesn't mean you can be disrespected, like i said you would'nt take a crap on a dead man's grave because he can't feel jealousy or doesn't have feelings, that's just my opinion,

i get it you'll be lonely after your partners death and love will be the thing that will make you happy, but is there any other ways of finding happiness, i just view it as replacing the late partner, like not replacement as in similar but as in the role of the partner replacement, i hear people ask their partner if they'll remarry or redate after they die and they just get blindsided, like their partner automatically thinks they're wrong without listening to their reasoning, i also have to ask a catch 22 question, if you love the late partner more than the new isn't that using the new partner or if you love the new partner more than the late isn't that replacement, i actually hear widows/widowers say they love the new partner as much as the late, isn't that messed, i also think it's still infidelity because you didn't choose to end the relationship, you let death do it, and yes i know i'll be dead so i won't feel jealousy, but that doesn't make it right would you go take a crap on a dead man's grave because he's dead and can't feel anything, i'm really scared of my partner getting remarried or redating after my death, i'll never give this opinion up,

youre not being replaced! its not like they pick out someone and say "youre now my husband. you have to act, look and talk like him." they are deciding not to be lonely for the rest of their life. yes i think youre being selfish. you are basically saying once you die, you dont want to get "replaced". in other words you want them to be lonely and not love someone

yes it is replacement, someone else is being their partner now, they're creating memories with someone else, and there might be other ways of them finding happiness,