What Does Being Lonely Mean to You?
When lockdown started and many people(understandably) reported feeling lonely, I've got to admit I didn't understand it. 
I thought, if you have meaningful relationships in your life and you're still able to contact these people, why are you lonely?
I've come to understand that loneliness is different for everybody but I would really like to hear what it means to be lonely for you? Especially if it validates another person's experience of loneliness!
Being lonely to me means I feel I don't have any meaningful relationships in my life.
I thought, if you have meaningful relationships in your life and you're still able to contact these people, why are you lonely?I've come to understand that loneliness is different for everybody but I would really like to hear what it means to be lonely for you? Especially if it validates another person's experience of loneliness!
Being lonely to me means I feel I don't have any meaningful relationships in my life.
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I never feel lonely, even without meaningful relationships. I don't really understand loneliness, tbh
Original post by Anonymous
I never feel lonely, even without meaningful relationships. I don't really understand loneliness, tbh
fair enough. I think it's ingrained in humans to crave meaningful relationships generally. Probably due to it's evolutionary advantage or something.
Original post by Obolinda
fair enough. I think it's ingrained in humans to crave meaningful relationships generally. Probably due to it's evolutionary advantage or something.
yeah, probably. I've always been a loner though.
I don't get lonely often, maybe about mid mayish of last year and before that 2018, so I can't speak from the feels when I describe what it means to me, but if I had to give it a definition probably something like the inability to connect with those around you to the point where it feels like you're kind of idolising interacting with others, like a 'want' to do it, despite it not meaning much when it actually happens? Idk man
Original post by Obolinda
When lockdown started and many people(understandably) reported feeling lonely, I've got to admit I didn't understand it. I thought, if you have meaningful relationships in your life and you're still able to contact these people, why are you lonely?
I've come to understand that loneliness is different for everybody but I would really like to hear what it means to be lonely for you? Especially if it validates another person's experience of loneliness!
Being lonely to me means I feel I don't have any meaningful relationships in my life.
I thought, if you have meaningful relationships in your life and you're still able to contact these people, why are you lonely?I've come to understand that loneliness is different for everybody but I would really like to hear what it means to be lonely for you? Especially if it validates another person's experience of loneliness!
Being lonely to me means I feel I don't have any meaningful relationships in my life.
This is an interesting question... I consider myself an introvert and I avoid any social interaction as much as possible. Honestly during the beginning of lockdown in 2020 I didn't have an issue much but perhaps I was more "anxious" with uni work. But recently I am feeling more "lonely" – I perceive loneliness as you said i.e. lacking meaningful relationships. More specifically, I feel there are very few people I can talk to about meaningful stuff. I'm doing graduate studies and my friends are working so they have different timings and I hardly get to talk to them as I used to.
Original post by V℮rsions
I don't get lonely often, maybe about mid mayish of last year and before that 2018, so I can't speak from the feels when I describe what it means to me, but if I had to give it a definition probably something like the inability to connect with those around you to the point where it feels like you're kind of idolising interacting with others, like a 'want' to do it, despite it not meaning much when it actually happens? Idk man
Thank you for sharing
I think I get that, it's feeling you can't connect with people (and wanting to be able to)?
For me, I used to love socialising but now as I am older aged 18, I have other priorities like work and studying so I am not bothered by not seeing friends.
I never feel lonely I like being alone and listening to music. I love myself.
I never feel lonely I like being alone and listening to music. I love myself.
Original post by Obolinda
Thank you for sharing
I think I get that, it's feeling you can't connect with people (and wanting to be able to)?
I think I get that, it's feeling you can't connect with people (and wanting to be able to)?
I suppose so, I guess it kind of makes anything you do do shallow in a way. I suppose thats one way of looking at it anyway, if you were to talk about old people then I'm guessing it's a whole other feeling, because they seem to thrive off of talking to people. Must be a "don't appreciate what you have until it's gone" kind of thing?
Original post by Anonymous
This is an interesting question... I consider myself an introvert and I avoid any social interaction as much as possible. Honestly during the beginning of lockdown in 2020 I didn't have an issue much but perhaps I was more "anxious" with uni work. But recently I am feeling more "lonely" – I perceive loneliness as you said i.e. lacking meaningful relationships. More specifically, I feel there are very few people I can talk to about meaningful stuff. I'm doing graduate studies and my friends are working so they have different timings and I hardly get to talk to them as I used to.
Thanks
I can definitely relate to what you're saying. Is you lacking people to talk to about meaningful stuff due to you not having any relationships in which you'd feel comfortable/make sense to. Or is this something you previously had but can't anymore due to conflicting schedules. or something else?I don’t get lonely often. And people are concerned about me living on my own thinking I need company. I don’t. I love being on my own and I need my space
Original post by Anonymous
For me, I used to love socialising but now as I am older aged 18, I have other priorities like work and studying so I am not bothered by not seeing friends.
I never feel lonely I like being alone and listening to music. I love myself.
I never feel lonely I like being alone and listening to music. I love myself.
Great
I am an introvert and I love lockdown. I do my study and work and play a lot of games and watch a lot of movies and tv shows. A lot of kpop music too. I eat my favourite foods like burgers and chips and cakes through home delivery Asda, Tesco and also Mcdonalds delivery. Lockdown is heaven for me.
Original post by Moonlight rain
I don’t get lonely often. And people are concerned about me living on my own thinking I need company. I don’t. I love being on my own and I need my space
That's nice
when you do feel lonely is this as a result of lacking company?
Original post by Obolinda
Great
Lockdown is great I like it a lot. A lot of extroverts and regular binge drinkers / party goes will struggle though
Original post by Anonymous
I am an introvert and I love lockdown. I do my study and work and play a lot of games and watch a lot of movies and tv shows. A lot of kpop music too. I eat my favourite foods like burgers and chips and cakes through home delivery Asda, Tesco and also Mcdonalds delivery. Lockdown is heaven for me.
I'm glad
Original post by Obolinda
That's nice
when you do feel lonely is this as a result of lacking company?
when you do feel lonely is this as a result of lacking company?
When I feel lonely, I crave being myself around someone so I miss certain people that I unfortunately can’t meet when I’m feeling that way. Not many people can fill that loneliness, only 4 people in this world.
As an Introvert, I feel happy to be at home sometimes but I miss hangouts. I haven't gone out with friends for 4 yrs now. It really sucks. I start to feel like I am falling out with them. I don't wanna go into the same loneliness hole I suffered for almost my entire lifetime
Original post by Moonlight rain
When I feel lonely, I crave being myself around someone so I miss certain people that I unfortunately can’t meet when I’m feeling that way. Not many people can fill that loneliness, only 4 people in this world.
I get that, thanks for sharing!
Original post by Anonymous
As an Introvert, I feel happy to be at home sometimes but I miss hangouts. I haven't gone out with friends for 4 yrs now. It really sucks. I start to feel like I am falling out with them. I don't wanna go into the same loneliness hole I suffered for almost my entire lifetime
I don't know what to say, I'm really sorry.
