I’m 21, in my third year of Uni and have never had a single close friend. I live with three other people, all lovely but very integrated into their own friend groups. In terms of living arrangements, we are compatible but I can sense that it doesn’t go beyond that. After we graduate, I can easily see us drifting apart.
The only people who really “know” me are the three therapists that I’ve had in my life; all were free services, as I cannot afford “proper” therapy and ended after 2-3 months, leaving me ironically, feeling even worse than before, like the only people who I could talk to had abandoned me. I felt crushed for months afterwards and it solidified my belief that I shouldn’t open up to people, because they will all eventually leave me anyway.
No one who I ever acquainted myself with has stayed in my life; childhood friends came and went, was a loner in secondary/sixth form, the group of girls who I befriended in Uni ditched me constantly.
I’m at a point in my life where I have not a single person to talk to. If it weren’t for my housemates occasionally posting something in the group chat about bills, I would have no notifications on my phone for months. I wake up to 0 messages everyday and I spend each day listening to my housemates chatting with their friends, having fun etc. There is one girl who calls me, but she only does so maybe once every two weeks if she wants free food from me.
The loneliness is debilitating and I don’t know what to do. Has anyone been in a similar situation?