From what I know, my friend lost her virginity to her bf. They had planned it for a while now and he went the extra mile to make it special for her (flowers in bed and everything) and she was really excited for it. However, when I see them next, she’s in tears screaming at him saying how she hated the sex saying how much it hurt...etc and then when I go to try and diffuse the situation, she looks me dead in the eyes and asks me if she should file a rape charge against her bf. Her bf on the other hand stands there utterly defeated and angry saying how he had never forced her to do anything she didn’t want to do and since it was her first time, saying how he made a point of continually asking her if she was alright and she had never said otherwise however, at this point she’s inconsolable and screams rape and how she hopes he gets kicked out of school..etc
I really don’t know who to believe, since I wasn’t there obviously. I want so much to believe it wasn’t rape since he’s very much a good guy and a clear feminist and very sweet to her and my friend does have a history of blowing things out of proportion, which she does admit to. But, I can’t ignore what she said and my instinct is telling me to stick with her and tell her to file charges. But at the same time, if he really is innocent ans she’s just regretful, I’d feel so much guilt. But also at the same time, if it really was rape then I’d want him to be punished so much more than just his expulsion for her behalf.
What do I do?? What do I tell her??