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How to make friends in uni

Why do I find it so hard to make friends other people make friends so easily I’m here struggling I literally have no one and I move out for uni, I am also always alone

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mnot

Universities Forum Helper

Original post by Anonymous

Why do I find it so hard to make friends other people make friends so easily I’m here struggling I literally have no one and I move out for uni, I am also always alone

Well its hard to say, but school you have a relevantly small amount of people to meet. Average school might have 100 people in a year and they'll naturally separate into 4 or 5 cliques so if you dont find it in with a clique and you want mates you need to look outside of school...

Anyway at this point their isnt much point worrying about people you wont see again if your moving to uni in a few months.

The good news is university is very fertile territory for friends, 10'000s of people and likely much more diverse personalities/hobbies/lifestyles.

Want to make friends at uni? Best thing to do is talk to people, try to meet up, join clubs/societies, go to events.

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University of Surrey Student Rep

Official Rep

Original post by Anonymous

Why do I find it so hard to make friends other people make friends so easily I’m here struggling I literally have no one and I move out for uni, I am also always alone

Hi there!

I am sorry to hear you are struggling in regards to making friends. I understand how hard it is to make friends, and please try not to feel alone as there is always someone there to help you and be your friend. Making friends at university can seem very hard especially if you are a quiet person. When I cam to university I was very shy and did find it hard to make friends. However I put myself out there, I made sure to socialise with my flatmates and people on my course. I made sure to join societies and clubs and attend any events they host. Once I started to push myself out my comfort zone and do things, socialise more, I found make friends a lot easier! What do you studying at university and what year are you in? I would 100% suggest reaching out to people in your accommodation or on your course, join clubs and societies and attend any events you can, this will definitely help you to not feel so alone and hopefully help you make some friends!

Becca (2nd Year Psychology Student)

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Anonymous #1

Original post by mnot

Sorry i think I confused you I already have moved out for uni I haven’t made any friends

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Anonymous #1

Original post by University of Surrey Student Rep

Thank you so much! But it’s my first year doing nursing (mental health ) everyone in my course is 25+ I am only 19 and people in my flat already come to uni with a friendship group so that makes it even more harder to be friends with them and bc of covid society are not on :frown:

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Anonymous #1

Original post by University of Surrey Student Rep

My putting your self out there did you attend the society and clubs by your self ? Because that’s what I am scared to do

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mnot

Universities Forum Helper

Original post by Anonymous

Sorry i think I confused you I already have moved out for uni I haven’t made any friends

I see, this has not been a fair year with the social circumstances.

But I really recommend talking to people, reaching out, joins clubs/societies etc. these are golden opportunities.

Ive met loads of people through student groups.

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University of Surrey Student Rep

Official Rep

Original post by Anonymous

Thank you for your reply. Mental Health Nursing seems so interesting to be studying! I understand how hard it is to make friends when people are already in a friendship group. Have you tried to maybe ask your flat mates to go out for lunch or a day out? It may be something that your flatmates might be wanting to do. That's a real shame about the societies! Have any societies been doing online sessions or socials? Some societies here at Surrey do run online sessions and therefore people still feel involved and make friends during this time. Hopefully your university does this same? It would be good to maybe find out as this may help you?

Becca

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Anonymous #1

Original post by University of Surrey Student Rep

Yes I have we have a flat group chat and they all ignored my message :frown:

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The University of Law Students

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Original post by Anonymous

Why do I find it so hard to make friends other people make friends so easily I’m here struggling I literally have no one and I move out for uni, I am also always alone

Hey, unsure which uni you go to, but I would definitely recommend joining a society! Lots of them have ‘socials’ too where you go on nights out together etc (not now ofc but they could be doing it in smaller groups).

There will be soooo many people in the exact same situation as you, I promise you! Everyone’s unsure on how to make friends especially this year it is really tough!

I read the other comments and saw how you’ve already asked your flatmates in a group chat, maybe you could ask one of them face to face? Something simple like going to the shop together, or for a coffee or library trip and then you can expand from there

I’d also check out any clubs outside of uni if you’re not interested in the societies.. like is the there some sort of book club, dance club, gym, anything you may fancy in the town you’re in?

Your uni may have a Facebook page up, check it out and see if anyone’s posted about wanting to start a club, or is feeling lonely too.

I hope some of that helps a bit!
Tasha :-)

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