Being black (Somali), gay and Muslim

of course there are gay Muslims, whether its feelings from the heart of lust and whatnot is debated a lot but it doesn't matter, Islam advises to keep those feelings and thoughts to yourself and not act upon them, thoughts and feelings aren't sins Allah doesn't sin you for them unless you act upon them, if you don't act upon them you are rewarded by Allah for avoiding acting on them. In islam relationship outside marriage is prohibited so a gay relationship or a straight relationship are both haram outside marriage. Marriage in islam is only allowed through woman and man, some Muslims believe they must get married to procreate, and they believe love is found through the obstacles and hardships married couples face and overcome together.

i hope you can mend your family relationship and become a happier person, may Allah give you strength and happiness

Haqq

I have recently been feeling emotional due to several reasons but they all lead back to my sexuality. I have recently seen the announcement of elite season 4 and saw some other clips of Omar and Andre and I related so much with Omar and I started to think about my future and if I will ever be happy or how I will tell my family even though they are not supportive and they have emotionally and physically abused me but also neglected me and my feelings. But being who I am I still want my family to love me ( which will never happen because they love control so much but that’s another story for another time). I have come out to my close friends as gay and they have been supportive a lot but unfortunately not to my family who are super homophobic. Luckily for me I am moving out on September to attend university of Manchester or Exeter to study law and plan to cut ties with my family when I am stable and get a corporate job which I will be when I am 22-23 year's old. What I wanted to ask you guys is so do you believe you can be Muslim and gay? And should I never come out in the future and stay as being the miserable person I am now?
Also I am currently 17 and in the London

Morality is derived from God, not society, and He is the one who will judge you when you die.

If you care about your soul, persevere through your trial and crack on with life. You may think you are entitled to being able to love who you want and that it is a right that you can demand off God but who said so?

Everyone has struggles - some are born disabled, some are born in poverty, others have abusive families, and others encounter problems later in life. No one's life is perfect and without trial, so don't have the expectation that yours should be trial free - this is your struggle if you want Jannah; if you want Hell, do what you want and follow your desires like others here are encouraging you to here.

Salaam akhi,
You need to think about what you value in life.
If you value Islam, then follow Islam. (Love and respect your parents - sort any problems between you, don't commit pre/extra martial sex, etc)
If you value the (temporary) sexual reward during gay sex, then that's up to you. (consider what you want to be gay for? is it just the male body? are you stereotyping the 'typical' female and that's why you would prefer to be with a man?)
Remember Islam forbids any sexual activity before marriage (both homo and hetro sexual).
I'd recommend you to hold your feelings for now, not commit zina (adultery) and see how you're feeling about the whole situation after uni.
Of course what you want to do is up to you, and you can consider me biased in my approach (as I'm muslim).
I'd also recommend you talking to an Imam about everything, you can trust them to keep everything private and not share to anyone (just ask them). There are plenty of mosque's in London, and that all means plenty support available to you.

I'm not Muslim, but being gay is part of your identity and is something you can't change. If a certain religion doesn't allow you to be yourself, then perhaps you should consider re-aligning your beliefs. You've got to own it and be proud of it. It's you and that's something you can't change.

Hope you feel better.

Holy ****. There is so much deep rooted homophobia on this thread. OP I sincerely hope you ignore the homophobic b+llshit in this thread. Please live your best life. If you want to f+ck guys, absolutely go for it. You've only got one life, so live your best life. Stop fearing a god that doesn't exist.

PRSOM

That’s not Islamophobia. Islamophobia is when people show prejudice or hatred against Muslims. Suggesting that God doesn’t exist is anti-religion but not hateful and certainly not specifically anti-Muslim or anti-Islam. You are not being persecuted.

I have recently been feeling emotional due to several reasons but they all lead back to my sexuality. I have recently seen the announcement of elite season 4 and saw some other clips of Omar and Andre and I related so much with Omar and I started to think about my future and if I will ever be happy or how I will tell my family even though they are not supportive and they have emotionally and physically abused me but also neglected me and my feelings. But being who I am I still want my family to love me ( which will never happen because they love control so much but that’s another story for another time). I have come out to my close friends as gay and they have been supportive a lot but unfortunately not to my family who are super homophobic. Luckily for me I am moving out on September to attend university of Manchester or Exeter to study law and plan to cut ties with my family when I am stable and get a corporate job which I will be when I am 22-23 year's old. What I wanted to ask you guys is so do you believe you can be Muslim and gay? And should I never come out in the future and stay as being the miserable person I am now?
Also I am currently 17 and in the London

You might find this organisation helpful

https://www.hidayahlgbt.com/

Stonewall is a useful resource and provides links to groups in the north west and south west that may be useful when you go to university. https://www.stonewall.org.uk/about-us/news/qtipoc-organisations-you-should-know-about

Best of luck. Try and ignore some of the more ignorant comments on here.

Regardless you shouldn't make an offensive claim knowing that most people still believe in a God, your opinion is your opinion. The OP wants help with their situation not a religion debate.

Well said they thank you for understanding

I have recently been feeling emotional due to several reasons but they all lead back to my sexuality. I have recently seen the announcement of elite season 4 and saw some other clips of Omar and Andre and I related so much with Omar and I started to think about my future and if I will ever be happy or how I will tell my family even though they are not supportive and they have emotionally and physically abused me but also neglected me and my feelings. But being who I am I still want my family to love me ( which will never happen because they love control so much but that’s another story for another time). I have come out to my close friends as gay and they have been supportive a lot but unfortunately not to my family who are super homophobic. Luckily for me I am moving out on September to attend university of Manchester or Exeter to study law and plan to cut ties with my family when I am stable and get a corporate job which I will be when I am 22-23 year's old. What I wanted to ask you guys is so do you believe you can be Muslim and gay? And should I never come out in the future and stay as being the miserable person I am now?
Also I am currently 17 and in the London