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do you consider this cheating?

texting other people and being kinda emotionally attached to them? also, occasionally sexting/cam sex but never meeting them in real life?

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’’Texting other people and being kinda emotionally attached to them’’ - no, as long as it was only in a friendly way, that sounds totally normal.
’’sexting/cam sex’’ - yes, I would absolutely consider that cheating.
Reply 2
Original post by anosmianAcrimony
’’Texting other people and being kinda emotionally attached to them’’ - no, as long as it was only in a friendly way, that sounds totally normal.
’’sexting/cam sex’’ - yes, I would absolutely consider that cheating.

what if it was with random people they had no emotional attachment to?
Original post by Ciel.
what if it was with random people they had no emotional attachment to?

That's still cheating regardless.
Original post by Ciel.
what if it was with random people they had no emotional attachment to?

Yeah, I’d still consider that cheating.

You’re not in a relationship with me, though. What matters is what the partner of whoever is doing these things, considers cheating, and what they decide together constitutes cheating.
Original post by Ciel.
texting other people and being kinda emotionally attached to them? also, occasionally sexting/cam sex but never meeting them in real life?

its only cheating depending on the previous understanding in the relationship. since theres no emotional attachment with the sexting, if youve put down the ground rules before hand and youre both cool with that then thats definitely not cheating. however, by most peoples standards that wouldnt be okay. that means that if the person has sexted others without having previously had that discussion with their partner, then that is cheating bc they have gone against the implicit agreement in their relationship. they have been deliberately deceiving by not having that discussion beforehand, and that is what makes it cheating.
Reply 6
Original post by silkypokemon96
That's still cheating regardless.

Original post by anosmianAcrimony
Yeah, I’d still consider that cheating.

You’re not in a relationship with me, though. What matters is what the partner of whoever is doing these things, considers cheating, and what they decide together constitutes cheating.

but is it really any different from watching porn when you really think about it? or do you believe that watching porn = cheating too?
Original post by Ciel.
but is it really any different from watching porn when you really think about it? or do you believe that watching porn = cheating too?

Yes, there is a difference.
No, I don't believe that.
Reply 8
Original post by silkypokemon96
Yes, there is a difference.
No, I don't believe that.

hmm, that's an interesting perspective i guess.
Original post by Ciel.
but is it really any different from watching porn when you really think about it? or do you believe that watching porn = cheating too?

Yeah I’m with Silky. I don’t think watching porn is cheating (although it could be problematic if a partner watches a lot of porn to the exclusion of actually doing things with their partner, but that’s another story). My partner sexting or doing cam sex would make me unhappy mostly because it gets another person involved. I would be upset if someone else had a sexual experience with my partner (e.g. cam sex) but not if my partner just had a sexual experience all on their own (e.g. porn).
Stop trolling
In what context are they emotionally attached?? I'm emotionally attached to my friends, but if I had a gf, and I go out with my friends, it's not cheating.

Also sexting/doing sexual things whilst in an exclusive relationship with someone else, is cheating. but in my opinion, watching porn isn't cheating. Sometimes sex doesn't always do things for you that masturbation does.
Reply 12
Original post by Siberiaan
Stop trolling

if you're not mature enough to handle conversations about relationships/sex then stay in tsr's chat section?
Original post by anosmianAcrimony
Yeah I’m with Silky. I don’t think watching porn is cheating (although it could be problematic if a partner watches a lot of porn to the exclusion of actually doing things with their partner, but that’s another story). My partner sexting or doing cam sex would make me unhappy mostly because it gets another person involved. I would be upset if someone else had a sexual experience with my partner (e.g. cam sex) but not if my partner just had a sexual experience all on their own (e.g. porn).

i know what you mean but it still seems a bit illogical
Original post by Wannabevetnurse
In what context are they emotionally attached?? I'm emotionally attached to my friends, but if I had a gf, and I go out with my friends, it's not cheating.

Also sexting/doing sexual things whilst in an exclusive relationship with someone else, is cheating. but in my opinion, watching porn isn't cheating. Sometimes sex doesn't always do things for you that masturbation does.

i mean, like a friendship but perhaps on a slightly deeper level
Original post by Ciel.
i know what you mean but it still seems a bit illogical

i mean, like a friendship but perhaps on a slightly deeper level


To be honest, that doesn’t really matter. Cheating is bad because it hurts the partner’s feelings, and that’s enough; feelings don’t have to be logical and often aren’t.

I’d be very happy if my partner had close friends other than me :smile: As long as there was no romance or sex involved.
Reply 14
Original post by anosmianAcrimony
To be honest, that doesn’t really matter. Cheating is bad because it hurts the partner’s feelings, and that’s enough; feelings don’t have to be logical and often aren’t.

I’d be very happy if my partner had close friends other than me :smile: As long as there was no romance or sex involved.

my partner wants me to have female friends only 🙄
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Original post by Ciel.
my partner wants me to have female friends only 🙄

Yeah, no, that’s unrealistic, possessive, and controlling. I so wish you would get rid of him already. You really can survive without him. You will have to learn to get along without him eventually anyway.
Reply 16
Original post by anosmianAcrimony
Yeah, no, that’s unrealistic, possessive, and controlling. I so wish you would get rid of him already. You really can survive without him. You will have to learn to get along without him eventually anyway.

i don't think i would tbh
Original post by anosmianAcrimony
Yeah I’m with Silky. I don’t think watching porn is cheating (although it could be problematic if a partner watches a lot of porn to the exclusion of actually doing things with their partner, but that’s another story). My partner sexting or doing cam sex would make me unhappy mostly because it gets another person involved. I would be upset if someone else had a sexual experience with my partner (e.g. cam sex) but not if my partner just had a sexual experience all on their own (e.g. porn).


100% agree.
Original post by Ciel.
if you're not mature enough to handle conversations about relationships/sex then stay in tsr's chat section?

i know what you mean but it still seems a bit illogical

i mean, like a friendship but perhaps on a slightly deeper level


You been trolling for years.
Original post by Ciel.
hmm, that's an interesting perspective i guess.


It's not an interesting perspective, 99% of people, me included, would think that way.

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