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Reasons all women a guy asks out only want to be friends

What does it mean if a guy always gets told that he is/seems like a great guy but the girl just wants to be friends with him/get to know him as friends when she asks him out?

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Hm, maybe he doesn't give off the vibes that he is interested further than a friendship?
It could be that your just going for the wrong people, and those people aren’t attracted to you

One thing I’ve learnt is to not have a type, yes I can prefer with a certain look or vibe but that doesn’t mean I’m going to shut down anything with anyone else
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Maybe he is asking out very attractive girls that don’t find him overall attractive enough to meet their dating criteria
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He’s not asking out specific types or very attractive girls. He’s going for the girls no one else goes for.
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Original post by Anonymous
He’s not asking out specific types or very attractive girls. He’s going for the girls no one else goes for.

Does he already know these girls in advance of asking them out, as he ever flirted with them prior to asking them out >? Have they flirted back with him on a regular basis ? Is it his method of how he asks them out ?
Do the girls he keeps being rejected by know each other ?
Ask the girls why they don't wish to date him ?
Maybe he is not good-looking, funny or what girls look for? why is there always something wrong with girls that reject and not with boys that get rejected?
He hasn't happened to ask out someone who's found him attractive yet. The fact that girls want to get to know him as friends first suggests that perhaps he's asking out people who he doesn't know very well, which means they're not as likely to have reason to want to go on a date with him. The fact that he seems to ask out quite a lot of girls would also suggest that perhaps he doesn't care about individual girls so much as getting a date, which people also don't tend to find appealing.
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Original post by Anonymous
He’s not asking out specific types or very attractive girls. He’s going for the girls no one else goes for.

And there's the problem; he's going for girls he's not really interested in. He needs to find people he is compatible with.
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Original post by Anonymous
Maybe he is not good-looking, funny or what girls look for? why is there always something wrong with girls that reject and not with boys that get rejected?

There’s nothing wrong with the girls (I never implied that in anyway). There’s clearly something wrong with a guy who gets rejected 100% of the time. Would you agree?
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And there's the problem; he's going for girls he's not really interested in. He needs to find people he is compatible with.

He is interested in them. None of them are ever interested in him however. Why? What’s he doing wrong?
Original post by OctoberRain7
He hasn't happened to ask out someone who's found him attractive yet. The fact that girls want to get to know him as friends first suggests that perhaps he's asking out people who he doesn't know very well, which means they're not as likely to have reason to want to go on a date with him. The fact that he seems to ask out quite a lot of girls would also suggest that perhaps he doesn't care about individual girls so much as getting a date, which people also don't tend to find appealing.

He asks them out after weeks, months, sometimes years of friendship and always gets rejected. What is he doing wrong? Is he just ugly?
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Original post by Anonymous
What does it mean if a guy always gets told that he is/seems like a great guy but the girl just wants to be friends with him/get to know him as friends when she asks him out?

They just don't like him lol. Women aren't some weird enigma for men to figure out. Women are just people dude. Get to know someone and actually develop an attraction instead of going 'WOMEN LONELY??? WOMEN MUST WANT RELATIONSHIP' like a caveman.
Original post by Wuvi
They just don't like him lol. Women aren't some weird enigma for men to figure out. Women are just people dude. Get to know someone and actually develop an attraction instead of going 'WOMEN LONELY??? WOMEN MUST WANT RELATIONSHIP' like a caveman.

He does get to know them as friends for a long time first.
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Original post by Anonymous
He does get to know them as friends for a long time first.

Then he should respect them as friends instead of seemingly resenting their friendship.
Original post by Wuvi
Then he should respect them as friends instead of seemingly resenting their friendship.

He doesn’t resent their friendship. Are men not allowed to ask women out?
Original post by Anonymous
He asks them out after weeks, months, sometimes years of friendship and always gets rejected. What is he doing wrong? Is he just ugly?

Nah, some of my friends are objectively good looking (and great people) and I still wouldn't go out with them. He could be doing any number of things "wrong", or nothing.
Original post by Anonymous
What does it mean if a guy always gets told that he is/seems like a great guy but the girl just wants to be friends with him/get to know him as friends when she asks him out?


Realistically, it probably means that the guy is a "nice person", but is not physically and sexually attractive. Sexual attraction is what separates a relationship from a friendship.
Original post by Wuvi
They just don't like him lol. Women aren't some weird enigma for men to figure out. Women are just people dude. Get to know someone and actually develop an attraction instead of going 'WOMEN LONELY??? WOMEN MUST WANT RELATIONSHIP' like a caveman.

What on earth are you talking about? OP's posts didn't come across like that at all.
Original post by Justaboutalive
Hm, maybe he doesn't give off the vibes that he is interested further than a friendship?

Errr he said he asked the girls out. I think that gives a pretty clear vibe that he's interested in more than a friendship.

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