''looks aren't that important''?

Do girls mean by this that a guy can be fat and still be attractive or do they mean a guy must be 6ft, muscular, ripped, chiseled looks and romantic, very nice, selfless, educated, etc.

It seems to me most guys are looking for someone who is kinda attractive and kinda decent but women want perfection!

In my opinion it's the other way round, for many girls they prefer personality over looks so they're more likely to settle down with a decent looking guy. A guy could be over 6ft and be very attractive but if his personality is shite then he starts to become ugly in our eyes. Of course no one wants to be with someone that they find ugly so that's why girls say looks aren't THAT important, but if a guy has a banging personality then he starts to become more attractive to us

I have never in my entire life heard anyone in real life claim that "looks aren't that important". Only weird and unrepresentative people on the internet say stuff like that. Looks are clearly very important.

I have...? numerous times, I recall even really beautiful women saying this phrase exactly and in a even stronger form (looks don't matter)

then why do girls obsess so much over small physical flaws? you never hear guys criticise a girl's body because she has cellulite or some other minor flaw. But girls DO! they are relentlessly critical and care so much about superficial stuff in looks... I am more self-concious around women because I observe how they talk about looks and it's .... scary

I've never heard any woman say that ever, tbh. But fair enough, I can certainly believe that there will be people out there who say that.

They are likely lying because they think it will make them look good. I'm willing to bet that those "beautiful women" that you know put a lot of time, money, and effort into their looks, eg with clothes, make-up etc. They wouldn't do this if they truly believed those things didn't matter.

The reason why the above quote is used is to signify that looks are less likely to matter in a relationship, in the long run, than personality and compatibility.
Why individual girls or boys use it is completely up to their judgement.

But someone is highly unlikely to date a woman/man that they aren't physically attracted to in the first place. Clearly you need personalities to be compatible too, but someone with a "compatible personality" but no physical attraction is a friendship not a relationship.

Looks are very important especially in the beginning of a relationship (and keeping the spark alive), so no, you can't justify being fat by having a good personality.

In my opinion it's the other way round, for many girls they prefer personality over looks so they're more likely to settle down with a decent looking guy. A guy could be over 6ft and be very attractive but if his personality is shite then he starts to become ugly in our eyes. Of course no one wants to be with someone that they find ugly so that's why girls say looks aren't THAT important, but if a guy has a banging personality then he starts to become more attractive to us