Struggling to be comfortable

I find it difficult to study and make friends through secondary school, they were many attempts, as a result most of them found it creepy (I can admit that) and I've been in England for 11 years, overall I'm still living with no friends even through college. I guess it's something to do with being bullied years before I arrive to the country. Right now its getting harder for me to communicate and getting along with people.

Do I deserve not having friends, even a group? If not, when?

Reply 1

Anonymous #1

I only have 2 friends. Same ones for 10 years. I am no good at making friends. I don't have much to offer, personality wise I am boring and broke. I don't go clubbing either.

It is ok. I hardly feel lonely

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

I think loneliness is something within. If you are happy with your life, you will never feel lonely

Reply 3

Flave21

It just feels a bit depressing for me tbh, and I will be happy when I have a massive group of friends

Reply 4

you.better.eat

Original post by Anonymous

yours are loyal , there people who make 2 or 3 friend a week or a month but they always left them behind

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

Original post by you.better.eat

yours are loyal , there people who make 2 or 3 friend a week or a month but they always left them behind

We went to the same primary school. We still talk even though we are at university. It is because we are very similar in views, personality, looks, height. That is why we get along.

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

Original post by Flave21

It just feels a bit depressing for me tbh, and I will be happy when I have a massive group of friends

Get a boyfriend. It will make you less lonely.

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

Dating apps are a good start . You can make a boyfriend or girlfriend or even friends

Reply 8

Flave21

Original post by Anonymous

Get a boyfriend. It will make you less lonely.

Original post by Anonymous

Dating apps are a good start . You can make a boyfriend or girlfriend or even friends

You mean girlfriend (not boyfriend)? I could get a gf, but it could get complicated as well if she finds out that I never had friends. I could start approaching women out in a public place, such as going to a city

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

Original post by Flave21

A woman will never accept someone who approached in the street or public place. Maybe a bar or a pub or even club

Reply 10

Flave21

Original post by Anonymous

A woman will never accept someone who approached in the street or public place. Maybe a bar or a pub or even club

Are you saying that as an overall of the women? Most of all women will accept and most women never. I also wonder... have you ever approached women?

(edited 2 years ago)

Reply 11

Anonymous #1

Original post by Flave21

Are you saying that as an overall of the women? Most of all women will accept and most women never. I also wonder... have you ever approached women?

Approach in a club or bar or pub.

Don't approach in the street

Reply 12

PeltKatsudon

are there no nice social rejects around? i have people in my year who are pretty nice but unpopular due to looks or habits

Reply 13

Flave21

Original post by Anonymous

Approach in a club or bar or pub.

Don't approach in the street

Depends on what personality and attitude you currently have.

Yes or No

Have you ever tried approaching a woman in the streets before?

Reply 14

Flave21

Original post by PeltKatsudon

are there no nice social rejects around? i have people in my year who are pretty nice but unpopular due to looks or habits

Not mainly on your looks is what I understand, never felt rejections before (based on social situations)

Reply 15

Anonymous #1

Original post by PeltKatsudon

are there no nice social rejects around? i have people in my year who are pretty nice but unpopular due to looks or habits

the term Social reject is an exaggeration. There are unpopular kids with few friends but calling them social rejects is too far

Reply 16

Surnia

Original post by Flave21

It just feels a bit depressing for me tbh, and I will be happy when I have a massive group of friends

You won't be happy with anyone else, friendship or relationship, until you are happy with yourself. Learn to enjoy your own company and what is appreciated by other people in terms of approach, conversation and other behaviour.

Get some hobbies or volunteer and meet like-minded people that way. If you want a girlfriend, make friends with girls first. Don't go randomly approaching women on the street.