How long is a late reply?

That is not long at all my guy

A late reply to me is 4 days +

I know, it's just slightly shorter than when we started. I'm a bit rusty with this stuff so overthink

I don’t think there is anything wrong with not replying by 3 hours. She might have other commitments, and values. She’s showing you enthusiasm which further proves my point, just relax and take things slow.. seems like you’re rushing about the “heavy lifting” just chill dude lol.

Yeah it's probably all in my head as even with some of the shorter replies she continues to ask me questions and gets my jokes. I'm taking it slow but have just asked if she fancies a video chat sometime soon. Yeah I guess she's not used to initiating but it's been over a week I think we get along quite well. Another minor thing I find is that there's some flirting between both of us, but when I suggest something there's never a hint of wanting to do it together, she'll say like "oh I'll have to check this out" or "I need to get down there" so not sure

If you want instant replies, pick up the phone and talk to her. If you can't communicate like that, it's not worth pursuing.

I think this is kind of being intrusive. They aren’t really on that stage to just randomly be calling unannounced, they’ve been both talking for just over a week.

She might get very annoyed and think of him as desperate/ needy and that he relies on her every minute of the day. She has other priorities in life, clearly and him disturbing that isn’t really the best way to go about things. Instead, he can organise a video chat to see what she says, this is throwing the ball on her court to see how she reacts to it.

They haven't even been talking, they are messaging. And what's the difference between a phone call and a video chat? Either could be organised, and in both cases it's using your voice and having an instantaneous conversation.

Talking/ messaging can be used interchangeably.

There’s a difference that one is showing your face + voice communication and the other is by means of only voice communication but you said that he should call her like it would have been unannounced or something. You especially even said that if they can’t communicate like that then it’s not worth pursuing which I majorly disagree on.

People do interchange talking and messaging, but it's not the same thing. I didn't mean don't pursue if they can't communicate specifically by phone, I mean if they can't maintain a normal voice conversation with haven't to think too long about what they are saying and dropping some emojis in there. And there's nothing wrong with a spontaneous phone call; the recipient doesn't have to answer.

I asked if she wanted to do a video call but it's been almost day and not heard anything so not sure

Busy probably
Don’t lose hope. When she answers, ask her where she was for clarity.

Ok she's replied. Said she's also enjoyed chatting and up for a video call but said sometime at night because she's got a new job. I can only presume sorting things out for the job.

Find it strange though although I've texted her, her score on snap goes up after but trying not to read too much into this

You’re deeping it. My guy, you aren’t even together. If anything mate, you should be trying your best to get to know her regardless. That’s if you really liked her.

She’s got a new job, see. Nothing is strange about it.

You think she’s cheating on you? Technically, that can’t even happen. You aren’t even together.