I find that being rude and being expected to have good manners is passé and quite bigoted. I understand that rude is another way of saying impolite, but I think most of the time I've heard this word flung about is in school classrooms. If you tell a child they're being rude and should stop their behaviour ,it's a way to try and control them based on the adult's expectations. Sure, if you're disruptive and stopping others from learning or being comfortable then that's ok, but what I don't think many people truly understand is that children behave the way they do based on the influences around them and a child will likely behave in accordance to what they've learned and policing that isn't always fair or necessary. As far as manners are concerned the concept is the same-they're enforced in an attempt to control people's behaviour and ensure that the etiquette in the environment is met and the people in that environment know their boundaries. But really how do we grow up as individuals if we keep on obeying the rules? Is it so we can be guided safely and protectively through our lives so we don't get into serious trouble-or is it so we don't question and work against the established systems we all pander to every day?