what do I do to be attractive?

Is it something I can do anything about or should I just not bother? I'm a straight guy btw.

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Questions you might want to ask yourself:

- How's my hair, does it complement my face shape?
- What's my skin like? Am I using the right moisturizer for my skin type?
- Are my eyebrows messy (if so, trim the edges)?
- Is my facial hair patchy?
- Am I at a healthy weight?
- Do I smell good?
- How's my posture?

make the money

Ask someone who knows you, strangers on the internet can't tell you

(edited 2 years ago)

Reply 4

CaptainDuckie

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Original post by aliciana

make the money

if I had no money and attracted a girl, I would prefer her over someone that I had attracted with money.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

Original post by urlocalinmate

oh ok thanks for the help

- How's my hair, does it complement my face shape?
I have a heart shaped face and long hair (for a guy at least) but I don't know what you mean exactly

- What's my skin like? Am I using the right moisturizer for my skin type?
My skin's ok I guess, I do not moisturise but I have clear skin, I don't know how I stack up against the competition though, maybe other guys have better skin idk.

- Are my eyebrows messy (if so, trim the edges)?
Nope, reasonably neat lol

- Is my facial hair patchy?
Yep but I don't grow it anyway

- Am I at a healthy weight?
Yes and my main interest is swimming which I do all year long so I'm healthy overall

- Do I smell good?
I wear deodorant daily and freshly washed clothes so I think I smell like a normal person

- How's my posture?
lol I don't know...?

Reply 6

aliciana

Original post by CaptainDuckie

if I had no money and attracted a girl, I would prefer her over someone that I had attracted with money.

I know, but this guy is desperate, so desperate measures need to be taken

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

Original post by Max1989

Ask someone who knows you, strangers on the internet can't tell you

It's kinda embarrassing

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

Original post by aliciana

I know, but this guy is desperate, so desperate measures need to be taken

mm not desperate just curious and shy perhaps...

Reply 9

CaptainDuckie

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Original post by aliciana

I know, but this guy is desperate, so desperate measures need to be taken

there are more logical measures to follow.

Reply 10

KylieIsBored

work on your confidence

Reply 11

urlocalinmate

Original post by Anonymous

You sound all good then. Some hairstyles don't complement and just exaggerate face shapes, e.g. buzz cut on a round face. As for posture, it probably is fine anyway, you can search up what a bad posture looks like as it's unattractive.

Reply 12

username3477548

Confidence makes a guy x100 more attractive.

Reply 13

Anonymous #1

Original post by KylieIsBored

work on your confidence

Original post by Qxi.xli

Confidence makes a guy x100 more attractive.

can you be a little more specific guys?

Reply 14

Anonymous #1

I'm myself but I don't seem to attract anyone so I must be doing something wrong or Idk

Reply 15

Max1989

Original post by Anonymous

It's kinda embarrassing

Well you may be a male model we don't know, you may be the greatest comedian on earth we don't know, no one can tell you your faults (if you have any) but the people who have to live with them everyday

Reply 16

username3477548

Original post by Anonymous

can you be a little more specific guys?

The less you care about them, the more obsessed they become.
Coming from experience lol.

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Reply 17

Satori Tendō

We don't know what the starting point is, you could already be attractive to most.
Personally, looks isn't a defining factor in attraction, it's rather everyone is the same looking until a connection makes them stand out. What's really attractive is the person, someone who's able to have a calm laid back conversation and just easy to talk to without effort. Having an interest/hobby that they enjoy discussing whether we share it or not. Being kind, polite, respectful to family etc...

Reply 18

anosmianAcrimony

That's the best strategy. Even if you don't attract as many people that way, it's better to do that than to attract a larger number of people by trying to be someone else. They'll figure out that you're not someone else sooner or later so not being yourself is a bit pointless.

Reply 19

username5808013

Original post by Anonymous

Is it something I can do anything about or should I just not bother? I'm a straight guy btw.

Listen, you could be a 10, but if your personality’s trash, that isn’t attractive.

For a good personality, the main thing I’d say is to be a good listener and a mindful talker. That’s basically it. Yeah confidence and generosity is nice but that happens naturally if you’re a good conversationalist and decent person in general.

I’m a girl by the way.

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