Guy losing weight in a relationship?

Are you sure he's healthy? My boyfriend at uni started losing weight despite eating normally. Weeks later he collapsed, was rushed to a hospital and diagnosed with type 1 diabetes.

Unintentional weight loss is always worth discussing with GP. If he's eating normally and weight still drops off, it might be health or stress. Or other reasons. Ruling out physical cause is a good idea.

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StriderHort

Original post by lastlullabyy

Are you sure he's healthy? My boyfriend at uni started losing weight despite eating normally. Weeks later he collapsed, was rushed to a hospital and diagnosed with type 1 diabetes.

Unintentional weight loss is always worth discussing with GP. If he's eating normally and weight still drops off, it's not normal.

Projecting a bit surely? :redface:

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lastlullabyy

Original post by StriderHort

Projecting a bit surely? :redface:

Apologies if this is how it sounded, wasn't my intention. Just that there might be an underlying cause and nothing to do with the relationship. Asking GP for advice and ruling out any physical cause is always a good idea. Maybe he's under stress for reasons other than relationship? Or maybe his metabolism is good.

It just sounded like OP might be thinking it could be their fault and it's probably not.

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StriderHort

Original post by lastlullabyy

Apologies if this is how it sounded, wasn't my intention. Just that there might be an underlying cause and nothing to do with the relationship. Asking GP for advice and ruling out any physical cause is always a good idea. Maybe he's under stress for reasons other than relationship? Or maybe his metabolism is good.

It just sounded like OP might be thinking it could be their fault and it's probably not.

The bit in bold is what i'm kinda disagreeing with, you shouldn't run to a GP about every little imagined thing and certainly not because a stranger online has put the idea in your head. The OP didn't say one word about the weight loss being unintentional, health related or even dramatic, and that's really the cue you should be waiting for before implying it's a health matter imo.

just my 2p anyway. I can certainly see how such an experience would alter your view on such things.

To boil it down, it's like me saying i'm off my food, and you saying i should go see someone for an eating disorder without any further info, when the really obvious answer might be 'It's too hot for big meals'

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Original post by StriderHort

The bit in bold is what i'm kinda disagreeing with, you shouldn't run to a GP about every little imagined thing and certainly not because a stranger online has put the idea in your head. The OP didn't say one word about the weight loss being unintentional, health related or even dramatic, and that's really the cue you should be waiting for before implying it's a health matter imo.

just my 2p anyway. I can certainly see how such an experience would alter your view on such things.

To boil it down, it's like me saying i'm off my food, and you saying i should go see someone for an eating disorder without any further info, when the really obvious answer might be 'It's too hot for big meals'

Weight loss is a symptom of so many illnesses though. If it is uninentional her advice is fine. OP just needs to reply and specificy whether it's intentional or not. Or ask the boyfriend if she doesn't know.

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Original post by Anonymous

He looks good but he's no longer like his former self. He's healthy and seems happy but his weight loss and lanky figure is hard to not notice.

How can a happy relationship lead to this?

You haven't given enough information though lol. He might just think he's fat and is losing weight intentionally because he thinks it looks better.

Or he might just be too lazy to eat proper meals and feed himself if he's got loads of work to do.

There are so many mundane reasons it could be.

Have you asked him?

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Anonymous #2

Original post by Chicken.M.

You haven't given enough information though lol. He might just think he's fat and is losing weight intentionally because he thinks it looks better.

Or he might just be too lazy to eat proper meals and feed himself if he's got loads of work to do.

There are so many mundane reasons it could be.

Have you asked him?

He was never fat. He was perfectly proportionate. Great legs, physique. Now he's simply slender

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Doesn't look like it lol.

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Anonymous #2

It's hard. He will feel I'm mocking his weight. Also he looks like he's always thinking something.

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