Friends

How many real friends do you have?

0. Quite like being alone, to be honest.

0, I've never really be able to build meaningful relationships, although I'm freindly with everyone and they all like me, it's all very superficial

How many fake friends do u have ?

I wouldn't call them fake, just not deep, and essentially everyone I know which is in the hundreds if not thousands. Only a handful of people I have met I don't get along with at all.

Although I don't talk to them I'd say I have about 5 people that I could depend on if I really needed them for something....but being so alone you develop complete independence

My main talent is being likable, I'm popular in the genuine sense, which is ironic as I don't talk to anyone.

0. Quite like being alone, to be honest.

Somebody got a promotion

I think that's what happens when you spend too much time on TSR.

I've seen you around TSR a bit, but I don't think we have ever had a proper conversation. How are you doing?

Just came here to let everyone know how many friends I have but someone beat me to it lol

Yh I'm good thanks, how are you?

If u find ppl that u can depend on in ur needy times ,dont u consider them as friends?

ALso if u re so lovable ,why you have no real friends ,whats the reason behind it?

Yes an no, I see friendship as an emotional bond, these emotions aren't present, I guess it is a loose form of friendship but more like having a good neighbor, if you needed them to look after your dog whist on holiday they would but it's not like you feel connected to them.

I wouldn't say I was 'lovable' actually been called unlovable, more just very likable and friendly but I wish i knew, I really do, I have my theories but breaking them down doesn't really explain it: Main few reasons of the top of my head:

1) Lack of development of relationships while I was a child due to not really seeing my parents much due to work
2) Lack of development of communication skills as my brothers basically did all my talking while I was younger, although I am actually an extremely good speaker now
3) Struggle a lot in communication online
4) Don't feel anyone wants me in their life, If they wanted me they'd make themselves noticed
5) I'm relatively eccentric, not in a bad way, if anything it's a good thing makes me interesting and puts a smile on people's faces but I can see how sometimes I can be a bit overwhelming
6) I don't feel the need to shared anything about my life as I don't like talking about myself really, or at least drawing attention to myself, so not active on social media really at all
7) Serve social anxiety and stress, but I don't know why tis not because of what others think, it's something deeper that I don't understand
8) Just generally hate myself, my self esteem is absolutely non-existent, again not because of what others think it's gone past that point and don't care anymore
9) Lack of effort on my part I certainly admit I don't reach out to people much, used to but those friends were bad but from my bad experiences I'm a bit hesitant to do it as often as I probably should
There's probably a few more things but that's the brief list

TLDR: In other words I'm very much a social outlier, an extroverted social outlier if that was possible, an extrovert that has just come to terms with no one wants me, but I am pleasant to be around, there isn't a reason for people not to like me but there isn't really a reason to love me

Feel like I'm derailing this thread now but you asked

I do however feel their is a creeping epidemic of people unable to create friends, I can't quite put my hand on what the culprit is but we are growing up with less and less friends, people's ability's to communicate is getting worse and worse, loneliness is real, it is really harmful but the only solution is to well...make more friends...but the problem is deeper than that it's the actual ability's to maintain these friendships, communicate be a reason for people to stick around, life just goes too fast, focused on ourselves, too easy to move away friends are too often expendable, distant memories. Friendships are very superficial as it's one thing to be friendly and nice to someone but another to feel connected

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