Is boyfriend uncomfortable about money or is he just stingy?

You know I was on your side until that last sentence “I feel my needs are not being met in a way” - what needs to you have that require him to spend money? None.
If you buy him things that’s your decision, not in an expectancy of getting something in return.

And you say he doesn’t buy things for himself yet in the next paragraph he’s buying himself a gauntlet-which is it?

As for you paying for everything- that’s your choice to not have the conversation about who’s paying.
That’s the only issue I can really see here, but it could all be cleared up by just always splitting the bill. It’s as simple as you taking the bill and saying, okay that’s £XX each.

No - he is stingy and no gentleman.

Worse still he has major character flaws - not the least is that he is taking advantage of you. Looking at his behaviour/attitude he is a bit of a coward - do you really want a future with that kind of person. It will probably drive you nuts over time.

Basically wouldn't it be best to change him for a better model. Of course if he is really good in the sack keep him for R & R and find a nicer guy for the other stuff.

Good luck.

Maybe he doesn't want you to buy those things although it is a bit weird he bought a figurine thing also why don't his parents allow him to work?

You know, it's not just the figurines. You know how you are walking in a shop and see something nice and buy it for your loved one, Be it a sister, brother, etc but in this case it's my boyfriend. I'm not forcing gifts on him. It's kind of second nature tome. And to be fair, he doesn't seem (or hasn't mentioned being) uncomfortable.

I'm not sure why his parents don't allow him to work. But that's that. They have quite a strong hold on him. For instance, he can't have friends over. Those kinds of rules. No reason, just abide by the rule.

Maybe he doesn't want you to buy those things although it is a bit weird he bought a figurine thing also why don't his parents allow him to work?

I'm not sure whether your bf is quite stingy, opportunistic, spineless, all three or has just been cowed by the financial tyranny of his controlling parents.

OP is like the Angel of Mons to so many people on this forum. They've read that there are girls that go out with boys who like "animation figurines" and what's more - they also buy them as presents. There are people weeping with joy and hope right now.

how odd maybe just stop buying him stuff? if you both love each other then that is the most important thing

His behaviour has been fine - apart from the stupid £60 gauntlet. And that on its' own represents an annoying amount of selfishness and imaturity on his part.

It's OK for him to not spend money. Especially when it's not his money. It's his parents. I'd feel guilty spending other people's money.

But it's not OK for him to sponge off you and to buy stupid £60 kiddies toys for himself.

Have a conversation with him about what he sees himself doing after uni. To earn money. And then when he's earning money what his attitude to spending it, saving it, investing it is. If his after-uni approach to money will be compatible with yours, then don't dump him over this money issue. If you will be incompatible, dump him and get a boyfriend with whom you will be compatible.

You explained that wholesomely. That's what I wanted to convey. I just struggled to bring it out this clearly.

The after-uni talk we have already had it. He has big plans. But his parents have other plans for him. His parents are "looking at setting him up for family business and marry him to a rich lady" his words not mine. So, I don't think the rich woman is me. Therefore negated the parents plans and thought his plans were neat.

The thing is, his parents infantilize him especially when it comes to money . So we can't talk about money properly. And in that sense we may be incompatible?

You have become involved with a man who is not financially mature enough for you, this is your fundamanetal issue. Even if your long term plans are compatible you are currently with a man who allows his parents to dictate whether he works or not and how he spends his money (and you believe he will suddenly reject their path for his own because.. if he's not strong enough now it seems unlikely he will develop the mental strength in the next few months).

You need to stop shying from the hard conversations. Sit him down, inform him that he needs to start paying for half the stuff and if he comes up with an excuse instruct him to get a job, there are currently record vacancies and no better time to gain a menial job. If he is happy to sponge off his parents (even if they moneycodel him willingly) then he is not yet a man and not an emotional investment that will perform for you anytime soon.

As somebody of a poor background myself i don't believe that class is a terminal issue for relationships normally but in some cases it can be. This may be the case for your own relationship if your boyfriend is not financially mature enough to take control of his life. Your akin to a woman who has a non-rich boyfriend that just sits around gaming all day even if he has master plans down the line. Ultimately you must choose between demanding their maturity now, being a 'waitee kaitie' (i.e. allowing his emotional development to dictate your path together) or writing him off as an emotional investment.