Hey!
I mean, I wouldn’t say find another uni, that to me would add even more pressure. What you need to do is set yourself boundaries and try and stick with them. I saw you just said you feel like it’s impossible to leave the relationship, nothing is impossible. Our own minds stop us from doing everything.
Can I just say I’ve just finished university, I’m a mature student and I hardly made any friends whilst I was there. I used to think, ‘what’s wrong with me?’. What was wrong was that I never put myself out there and never tried and now I wish I had! I didn’t get involved in any societies, didn’t take part in any extracurricular activities and basically did not make the most of my university life.
If I was you, find something over the summer you really enjoy. Go to a starters sessions of something and put yourself out there. What’s the worst that could possibly happen? I have had severe anxiety for several years and the thing I’ve found helps overcome it, was doing thing I felt were uncomfortable and things I was anxious of doing. The only person that knows how anxious or how uncomfortable you feel is yourself, no one else can see that and so a lot of us are actually feeling the same, we just have to learn to break that barrier and get out and meet others. We didn’t care when we were kids, we would literally run over to any random person and ask what their name was lol! We need to adapt to that way of life again and basically not given a ****!!
If you find a hobby or something else to pass your time, the gym, an arts class, volunteering… anything. You will meet like minded people and eventually start to get out more and spend time with other people than your partner. Sometimes relationships become toxic because we live and die in each others pockets and forget what we actually want in life and our own own wants a needs to the side!
Make time for you! You can literally do anything you set your mind too. I mean, your studying at uni so that shows your character and how much drive you actually have!