How can I make it up to my bf?

Been together 3 years. He’s fed up as I get really angry sometimes when there’s misunderstandings and then we argue. We live an hour from each other and he always comes to see me, I haven’t been to him yet. I feel it would be simpler if we were closer. He also always pays for things including trips, dinners etc. He feels it’s one sided and that I don’t show him love at all. He’s telling me he’s done but I know there’s some part of him that isn’t, but he tells me I manipulate him. We also started going for therapy (he paid for it) but I never used the strategies she said…so he’s annoyed with that.

Is there any way I can try to make it up to him?

Help him in difficult times then he will know that its not one sided..
Remember relationships takes alot of energy and effort and sacrifices

The best way to make it up to him is by showing him that you can change. Adult relationships require calm communication where you need to show that you are considerate of the other person's feelings even at times you disagree. Next time that there is an argument, try to be more patient. Let him speak, listen atentatively, and if you feel yourself getting angry stop and take a few deep breaths before responding rather than jumping into a shouting match or typing long messages. Try to put yourself in his shoes and make an effort to understand why he might feel that way, and make an effort to acknowledge that his feelings are valid.

Do you make the effort to reach out first, ask about his day, organise dates, and listen to him speak about his interests (particularly ones that you may not be into) at length? All of these things show interest and make a relationship feel less one-sided.

You've also mentioned that he is the one to travel to you and he also pays for the dates. Is that also a point of contention? If so, the simplest solution there is to make the effort to go to him and offer to pay sometimes.

You reminding me of my relationship with afghan girl
As im the one doing things ..one sided 🤣😢 cant move from her...

If u love him truly..he wont be able to move from you
Dont worry hes not showing his weakness to you i know ..we boys take ages to move from one girl its too painful
He just frustrated but aint leaving y

Been together 3 years. He’s fed up as I get really angry sometimes when there’s misunderstandings and then we argue. We live an hour from each other and he always comes to see me, I haven’t been to him yet. I feel it would be simpler if we were closer. He also always pays for things including trips, dinners etc. He feels it’s one sided and that I don’t show him love at all. He’s telling me he’s done but I know there’s some part of him that isn’t, but he tells me I manipulate him. We also started going for therapy (he paid for it) but I never used the strategies she said…so he’s annoyed with that.

Is there any way I can try to make it up to him?

He’s literally told me he wants a happy life and he can move on from this easily because he remembers all the bad things I’ve said. We’ve been in this position before and I haven’t really made an effort since so he keeps telling me he feels in being manipulative by telling him I’ll change when he doesn’t think I will.
But it does sound like he’s done?
A few weeks ago he took me away on a really nice trip, made such a huge effort and bought me lots of nice things and booked amazing dinners. I can’t forget things like that and how now he seems to just want to cut me off

A relationship is a two way street, and this is all one way.

Lucky you, I guess, but if you want to keep him, you will have to make more of an effort. You are not willing to learn from the therapy, either!

Finally, he has had enough and knows he can do better. There are plenty of caring girls out there.

Put yourself in his shoes - how would you feel if you had to pay for everything, have an argumentative boyfriend and feel uncared for?

If you don't feel anything for him, do the decent thing and let him go.

Also learn from the experience. Maybe you know deep inside he is not "the one", and that is why you are not making the effort.

This relationship really has no future.

He invested alot in you
I dont think he can cut you off easily
Theres some misunderstandings between you too that u both need figure out

He’s literally told me he wants a happy life and he can move on from this easily because he remembers all the bad things I’ve said. We’ve been in this position before and I haven’t really made an effort since so he keeps telling me he feels in being manipulative by telling him I’ll change when he doesn’t think I will.
But it does sound like he’s done?
A few weeks ago he took me away on a really nice trip, made such a huge effort and bought me lots of nice things and booked amazing dinners. I can’t forget things like that and how now he seems to just want to cut me off

I understand that. I am a very caring person and am often told this by people. I’ve had a tough year and I haven’t put anything in to the relationship mostly for this reason. I understand he is drained but I’m very willing to change for him…I feel if I felt nothing for him I’d find it easy to cut him off. But I can’t let him go, I do really really love him.

If he loves you he will be coming back no matter what he says
And if he doesn't then cut him and move forward
And So if u think he loves you then dont cut him off

hey. tbh it sounds like u need to get ur shiz together. do u want to fight for the relationship or not? like user above said with all the tips to keep it cool in arguments, u urself admit u are too short tempered at times. u are aware of ur flaws, then try to become a better version of urself. take deep breaths, let him express what he feels, but most of all, if u guys are going to therapy, follow through with what the therapist recommends. if u don’t even do that, idk bout u, but from here it looks like u don’t give a flying f*ck. also, i get that you’re used to him initiating all contact, paying, and him going to see u, but if this situation is a dealbreaker- and it sounds like it is, if he’s telling u he feels like this is one sided- then u need to make the effort. if u want this to work, at least. but be honest and straightforward, ffs. don’t make promises about changing if you know you aren’t going to make the effort to change. that IS manipulation as I see it. so yes, get ur **** together or be done with it, but don’t string him along w fake promises and bs.

I know he loves me , even though he’s just told me he doesn’t (he’s upset). But I know that if we’re done, we’re done. He wouldn’t come back for me

hey. tbh it sounds like u need to get ur shiz together. do u want to fight for the relationship or not? like user above said with all the tips to keep it cool in arguments, u urself admit u are too short tempered at times. u are aware of ur flaws, then try to become a better version of urself. take deep breaths, let him express what he feels, but most of all, if u guys are going to therapy, follow through with what the therapist recommends. if u don’t even do that, idk bout u, but from here it looks like u don’t give a flying f*ck. also, i get that you’re used to him initiating all contact, paying, and him going to see u, but if this situation is a dealbreaker- and it sounds like it is, if he’s telling u he feels like this is one sided- then u need to make the effort. if u want this to work, at least. but be honest and straightforward, ffs. don’t make promises about changing if you know you aren’t going to make the effort to change. that IS manipulation as I see it. so yes, get ur **** together or be done with it, but don’t string him along w fake promises and bs.

tbh that does seem like you're being manipulative