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Porn ?? Commenting on porn in a relationship

my partner is watching porn videos
Which am fine with.
Though I Think he could be posting them online. he doesn’t know this I found out myself on internet. He Denys the posting shemale gay and normal porn or posting any porn. And Just watches normal porn.
on saying this have no prove other then he uses the same user name for everything related to porn videos. Which came up with theses porn vids.
Maybe am just paranoid.

But my actual question is it ok in a relationship to comment on porn videos? Like replying to a porn video saying “that girl is sexy and has gorgeous t*ts “in comments. Just want to know what the boundaries and the okays (first relationship)
Reply 1
Nope ..its not
Why hes watching if when he has a gf (you)
Real sex is natural and have benefits
Porn destroyes relationships

I also watch and i regret ..im trying to leave but im struggling i am sad for my gf i feel like im cheating 😔
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Original post by Anonymous
my partner is watching porn videos
Which am fine with.
Though I Think he could be posting them online. he doesn’t know this I found out myself on internet. He Denys the posting shemale gay and normal porn or posting any porn. And Just watches normal porn.
on saying this have no prove other then he uses the same user name for everything related to porn videos. Which came up with theses porn vids.
Maybe am just paranoid.

But my actual question is it ok in a relationship to comment on porn videos? Like replying to a porn video saying “that girl is sexy and has gorgeous t*ts “in comments. Just want to know what the boundaries and the okays (first relationship)

Different people will have different opinions about this. But it's your relationship so what matters is how you feel about it. If it makes you uncomfortable or unhappy when he posts these sorts of comments, talk to him about it and let him know how you feel.
Original post by anosmianAcrimony
Different people will have different opinions about this. But it's your relationship so what matters is how you feel about it. If it makes you uncomfortable or unhappy when he posts these sorts of comments, talk to him about it and let him know how you feel.

second this... it's your relationship, not our relationship. So if it makes you feel uncomfortable, you should talk to him and set up a boundary. If he doesn't adhere, then i guess you could ask us if its unreasonable to set up such boundaries... but after all, it's between the two of you.
To answer your questions from the duplicate thread - I'd be upset if my partner was doing something sexual and deliberately not telling me about it. The idea of them realising I might not like that they were doing a thing, but not telling me about it and continuing to do that thing, would be really undermining.

I don't think your boyfriend is necessarily not-straight, though. People seem watch all kinds of porn that don't necessarily match their orientation. I see plenty of threads on here about straight people watching different sorts of gay porn and being really confused and scared by it, and wondering if they're mistaken about their sexual orientation - and some of them seem to turn out bisexual or pan, but plenty of them do just seem to be straight but enjoy gay porn. At the end of the day, if he says he's attracted to you, you'll have to take that at face value.
If it bothers you then raise it for discussion with him.

I personally wouldn't mind if my partner did this.
Reply 6
Original post by 1582
If it bothers you then raise it for discussion with him.

I personally wouldn't mind if my partner did this.

Think I wouldn’t mind if he complimented me more on my body. He rarely does
Reply 7
Original post by anosmianAcrimony
To answer your questions from the duplicate thread - I'd be upset if my partner was doing something sexual and deliberately not telling me about it. The idea of them realising I might not like that they were doing a thing, but not telling me about it and continuing to do that thing, would be really undermining.

I don't think your boyfriend is necessarily not-straight, though. People seem watch all kinds of porn that don't necessarily match their orientation. I see plenty of threads on here about straight people watching different sorts of gay porn and being really confused and scared by it, and wondering if they're mistaken about their sexual orientation - and some of them seem to turn out bisexual or pan, but plenty of them do just seem to be straight but enjoy gay porn. At the end of the day, if he says he's attracted to you, you'll have to take that at face value.

Thank you for reply he had admitted to me he was bicurious but says he not now being since with me. But theses videos where added when he been with me lol so I don’t know really lol
Original post by Anonymous
Think I wouldn’t mind if he complimented me more on my body. He rarely does

This is something else you could talk to him about! Sometimes people are really attracted to their partner's body and really enjoy it, but don't compliment them much because they're worried they'll come across as more interested in their partner's body than in them as a person.
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Original post by anosmianAcrimony
This is something else you could talk to him about! Sometimes people are really attracted to their partner's body and really enjoy it, but don't compliment them much because they're worried they'll come across as more interested in their partner's body than in them as a person.


That kind of makes sense

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