friendship fallouts

I have to say, one things that jumps out v strongly is a reluctance to do anything for yourself. If your friend had made it clear in advance when their plans with a guy were, why were you trying to change that? why does she need to 'hand you off' to another friend?

ok that does change things a bit, you didn't make it clear you'd got yourself into a state at first, and for the sake of a 10/15 mins walk to drop you off yea your friend could have done more.

But tbh I'd take the whole thing as a lesson to be more self sufficient in general, people can always let you down. Going clubbing with people, and them hooking up and vanishing with someone is what happens dozens of times every night in every club, trying to keep a group together can be trying to keep the tide from coming in.

The thing is I am very independent and can take care of myself.

Saying it doesn't make it true. If your friend leaves you 10 minutes earlier than planned and your phone breaks, that shouldn't leave you in a position where you have to rely on strangers' charity. I'm not sure it's really worth cutting off your "best friend of 7 years" over something like this, personally.

my friends really hurt me. they left me alone on a night out with no phone as mine broke just to go to some boys house. if the time was reversed i know how infuriated they would be with me. they haven’t even apologised and when i said i was annoyed, she simply responded with ‘i told you i was going back to his in the first place’. this is true but i said i was annoyed that she couldn’t make sure that i was safe first by taking me nearby to another friend. all she thought about was herself. i can’t believe i haven’t gotten apology and i cried a whole load because it hurts how much it was evident she didn’t care. this is the 3rd time this year something like this has happened to me and it’s heartbreaking that someone i’ve known for over 7 years, who i called my best friend could do that to me. i don’t want to tell her i’m annoyed because it’s even worse she can’t notice it herself. my other friends advised me to cut them off because what they did was awful but i don’t know how to do that when i’ve been friends with them for so long and i’m so forgiving. this is however the first time i’ve thought of ending the friendship but i just don’t think i have it in me to do that. i really need some advice on what i can do :/

my friends really hurt me. they left me alone on a night out with no phone as mine broke just to go to some boys house. if the time was reversed i know how infuriated they would be with me. they haven’t even apologised and when i said i was annoyed, she simply responded with ‘i told you i was going back to his in the first place’. this is true but i said i was annoyed that she couldn’t make sure that i was safe first by taking me nearby to another friend. all she thought about was herself. i can’t believe i haven’t gotten apology and i cried a whole load because it hurts how much it was evident she didn’t care. this is the 3rd time this year something like this has happened to me and it’s heartbreaking that someone i’ve known for over 7 years, who i called my best friend could do that to me. i don’t want to tell her i’m annoyed because it’s even worse she can’t notice it herself. my other friends advised me to cut them off because what they did was awful but i don’t know how to do that when i’ve been friends with them for so long and i’m so forgiving. this is however the first time i’ve thought of ending the friendship but i just don’t think i have it in me to do that. i really need some advice on what i can do :/

The thing is I am very independent and can take care of myself. But if a plan was in place (simply being taken to my other friend) then you should stick to that no matter what. I was in no way **** blocking as I said it was fine for her to leave For instance a similar thing happened and I left her (but i left her with 3 of her other close friends) anyway, i still went back to them to make sure they were okay and safe.

do you think i need to cut off the 7 year friendship or get over it and just not trust her? also if you could take into account with her last relationship she would always leave me for him.

us guys have a code, bros before hoes. maybe you should invent one like chicks before d*cks.

You should try and talk it out. Don't cut them out of your life straight away because you will start feeling very lonely but if they are becoming toxic and horrible I would just get rid and find better friends. I've only just started uni this week hasn't gone that well socially because I haven't got a friend yet but I'd rather have no friends then have toxic friends. Because I've been there in secondary school and it isn't very nice.

IMO plans and intentions are all well and good, but often simply go out the window a bit when people are partying, intoxicated or looking to get laid, we often get tunnel vision. I've seen hundreds do it and and i'm not about to pretend I've never done the same. If you are drinking and expect the drinker next to you to be in charge, there is an obvious risk there.

I personally find there is not really any such thing as a friend that ticks every box, I have friends that I trust or rely on for certain aspect more than others.

Maybe she just didn’t want to be the babysitter again for a friend who’d gotten herself into such a state clubbing.
Some of the responsibility lies on you tbf- you shouldn’t get yourself into such states if you’re going to need looked after. You could have easily gotten less drunk and been able to make it to your other friends on your own.